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The night before the wedding, stay at a hotel or at my house? I live 45 minutes away from the church, and I don't want to have to rush when getting ready. I would also like my bridal party to be with me when I get ready- for all of us to get ready together, But I have an apartment with no room for anyone to stay. What did u guys do, or are going to do? My mom got insulted and said she wouldn't go if I do the hotel. HELP!!

I am staying home with FH night before, I wanna be comfy in my own bed.
Getting ready at moms, we live 5 minutes from my church.

Do whats best for YOU. Explain to your mom theres not enough room.

i'm sleeping at my parents. FI is staying in the condo. my mom really didn't ask me - it's just something that i want to do!

do what is best for you!!!!

my mom is insulted because she thinks that I just don't wnt to get ready at the house. She said normally the bride gets ready where she grew up (comes from) and the bm's get ready at THEIR houses. Then everyone meets up in the end. She wants pictures of me in my our house, but I don't see the point. Theres no room, it'll be uncomfortable, there's not even room for my dress to be spread out properly and take nice pictures. Plus, I didn't grow up here, we moved here 4 years ago. I really want to do the hotel, but she keeps telling me I'm just going to be wasting my money.

P.S. She really got ****ed when I told her that it really isn't up to her since she's not paying for it. I'm footing the entire bill for the WHOLE wedding myself, so I get to decide where I stay, and what I do. Then she started comparing me to other brides saying that 'no one else stays in a hotel'. I told her I'm not everyone else getting married, I'm ME getting married, and this is what I want!

Honestly, IMO, you have more than a year to go before you have to decide- it's not worth fighting about it with your mom right now- you may end up changing your mind, or she may be more receptive to the idea later on when she sees how stressed you're getting as the day approaches.

Ultimately, the day is about you, not your mom, so do what you feel comfortable with. Good luck either way.

Thanx. I know it's not worth fighting over now, but she just won't let it up when I try to drop it and walk away.

What does IMO mean? First thing this morning when I woke up, the first thing she asked about was the hotel and when I said I did not want to discuss it that moment (I was getting ready for school) she followed me around the house and kept yelling and asking me if I was ashamed of my house, and told me that the night before belongs to her.

I wrote in only because I just wanted to get an opinion as to what other's have done or are doing. I just wanted to make sure I'm not being crazy and insensitive by wanting to stay in a hotel.

IMO = in my opinion. and you are not being crazy and insensitive. can you just tell your mom, that you do not know how you will feel about it next year, and you are waiting before making a decision on this.
It is so true that your feelings will change as it gets closer. My wedding is next month and I am still not sure how the night before will go! I will probably stay at my apt with fh (we live together) and then meet up with everyone early in the am. still not sure if I will get dressed in my apt. or by my sisters
Brides do different things. from what I have read some stay home, some at hotel. in the end you MUST do what is best for you and everyone will get over it!