Night Before Dilemma...Any suggestions - I have to find a solution...

darly Posted: Mar 11, 2004 12:26 PM

Night Before Dilemma...Any suggestions - I have to find a solution...

I have a little dilemma that might be brewing...The 2 set of parents are not speaking and I don't think that they will be on good terms ever.

So - Fh and I decided no evening before dinner b/c it will be too much as we are having an early wedding...plus the situation with the families would add more tension to everything.

Now my father mentioned to me that he would like to take the few people we are having from OOT to dinner the night before - I wasn't planning on doing anything & was going to stay at my parents house the night before - so it's not as if I could avoid the whole thing by staying at my place.

SO...what do I do?? What if the FH's family wants something too?? Do we go to both?? Seperate?? That seems ridiculous b/c it's for us...

Does anyone have experience in this situation??

MCDO15 Posted: Mar 11, 2004 12:33 PM

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i think you have plenty of time and see if things work it self out.......

nsgraham Posted: Mar 11, 2004 12:36 PM

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Hmm- well, if you were hosting this and it were an official 'rehersal dinner' I would say that both of the parental sets would have to deal. But since you're not, you're free to go or not. If both parents want to host something, tell them to keep it informal because you might not be there. Don't have it be for you - have it just be your parents getting together with their OOT friends the night before the wedding. Do you see what I mean?

butterfly20 Posted: Mar 11, 2004 12:43 PM

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maybe itll work itself out...

otherwise both sets of parents can entertain their OOT guests, and you can take your bridal party out and give them their gifts

darly Posted: Mar 11, 2004 12:48 PM

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Yeah I see what you mean...we are not hosting anything - I could def. see not going at all, I would hate insult everyone - but that is me - I am a people pleaser...I will have to put my foot down...but that is what th FH said - let's not go to either.

His family usually eats at 5 pm and mine laster so we can go to both if that happens, but my parents will not host anything with them.

I know right now that there is not resolution to this situation as my family and his have no interest in talking...the whole thing is so insane that I can't even type it!!

charlotte227 Posted: Mar 11, 2004 12:51 PM

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Don't stress...take care of you first, and everyone else will follow your suit and fall into line...good luck!

jj04 Posted: Mar 11, 2004 01:02 PM

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I would do the seperaste thing if I were in your shoes. I plan on being seperated the night before anyway...it is just something I want you can go with your OOT guests and he with his. Hopefully your parents and his will understand this is a special day and will look past it all. best of luck.