No bridal shower

KDNY133 Posted: Sep 18, 2011 08:24 PM

No bridal shower

My MOH is giving me a hard time because i dont want a bridal shower. I gave birth to my son last year and i feel like everytime i turn around its been about me. Baby shower, christening, first birthday and then the wedding. Alot of my family has to travel to come to my parties. What do you think i can do as opposed to a bridal shower so my MOH wont be mad....lol

allycat Posted: Sep 18, 2011 08:42 PM

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You should have a shower. You only get married once you deserve a shower.

LMEL1223 Posted: Sep 18, 2011 08:50 PM

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Maybe you could have a shower in place of a rehearsal dinner.
That way anyone who is traveling will only have to make one trip.

ndeokinanan Posted: Sep 18, 2011 08:53 PM

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A breakfast/brunch is a nice idea. Something casual and not too formal

Royalgem21 Posted: Sep 18, 2011 10:28 PM

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It would be the same thing if you had the bridal shower, wedding, then got pregnant and had a baby shower, christening, 1st birthday... etc

Don't worry about it if they are happy to plan it for you! Enjoy it

pixietina Posted: Sep 18, 2011 11:08 PM

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Posted by Royalgem21

It would be the same thing if you had the bridal shower, wedding, then got pregnant and had a baby shower, christening, 1st birthday... etc

Don't worry about it if they are happy to plan it for you! Enjoy it

I totally agree!

ellablackelly Posted: Sep 18, 2011 11:11 PM

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I think you deserve a bridal shower~

MrsWoods Posted: Sep 19, 2011 09:24 AM

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I didn't want a shower either because i already live with my FH. But he insisted that i have one, so i planned a very small one with my MOH at my house. There were about 15 people which included the groomsmans wives, close family members and friends. It was very nice and i wouldn't change it.

So you can do something like that or you can combine the rehersal dinner or bachlorette party with a shower. So you don't have to have two separate parties.

soon2bmrsammo Posted: Sep 19, 2011 11:08 AM

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Posted by ndeokinanan

A breakfast/brunch is a nice idea. Something casual and not too formal

This!

bridetobesteph Posted: Sep 19, 2011 11:31 AM

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You deserve a shower, it is good that you are modest. Maybe make it a casual brunch or something low key and tell your MOH not to put pressure on family to travel (they can ship gifts it has been done!). My Mom threw me an afternoon tea which was so cute, you can make it casual but you deserve a shower!

KDNY133 Posted: Sep 19, 2011 03:16 PM

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Thanks for all the comments. The brunch idea sounds nice with a few family & friends. Not used to all this attention...lol

bridetobesteph Posted: Sep 19, 2011 03:24 PM

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It is overwhelming but WORK IT you can never have this time back and people want to celebrate you - let them!

mara1017 Posted: Sep 19, 2011 03:48 PM

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I do not think that just because you had your child before you got married means that you should not have a bridal shower.

If you think about it you are not asking any more than anyone else. Just maybe in a little different order.

And if someone thinks that you should not have a shower they can RSVP no.

Don't take it away from yourself just because you are afraid you are having to many affairs.

Look for me I am planning on trying to get pregnant right after the wedding. So it is not out of the rehlm of possibilities that I would be having a baby shower 6 or 7 months after my wedding.

See it is just in a different order

kshea23 Posted: Sep 19, 2011 06:15 PM

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Posted by Royalgem21

It would be the same thing if you had the bridal shower, wedding, then got pregnant and had a baby shower, christening, 1st birthday... etc