No one cares about my wedding....(very long)

No one cares about my wedding....(very long)

I have no help from anyone...my FH parents don't care ...you plan everything and we will come.....my father is the same way...he is not happy that im getting married so soon ( me and my Fh are together for 7 1/2 years)... i ask everyone for guest list, and everyone don't see any reason to invite anybody.... i thought i will invite closes friends of my dad and he is mad at me that i will, same with ma FH mom....they just care about their own lives..... they don't see this date as something special..... you know my father gor even mad when we got engaged and he was upset because he found out the last ( we got engaged on dec 24,06 and we had our engagement party on dec 25,2006...it was only for closes family...we just had a dinner, and he found out on dec 24 aroud 10 pm...i dont get him) ...i am really upset now, because i cant get any advice from anyone....my FH mom wants to be cheap with everything, for her we shouldn't get married in 2008, instead we should do it in 2009 because her older son is getting married two weeks after us...but we were first ones to announce everything, and we are going out longer....so as you see im upset, i feel that i should just get married and don't include anyone.... my original plan was to get married in jan 2008 in Poland, but because of my FH mom oppositions we didnt do it (everything was planned already) so we changed our plans and started planning again.... and now i feel that i should just go to poland and get married just with my grand parents and the rest of family... ( i dont have any family here except my parents) And my mom also shows no interest in the big day.... only my step mom made the effort to call the photographers, which I had to do again.... I want to have a great wedding, but so far i just strugle with everything.....

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I totally hear what you are saying.....because unfortunetly I feel the same way sometimes.

But you know what.....just keep in mind you are marrying your BF of 7-1/2 years and no matter who is there to see it, it will still be special because it's about YOU and FH and honestly when it comes down to it no one else really matters. I feel when I focus on that instead of what everyone else thinks or does all that cr*p just melts away.

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you are right, but i would like to see some involvement from my or his parents...so far its complications

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Sorry you have to deal with this, I don't understand why you're dad has a problem with this if you two have been together for so long.

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i'm sorry you are dealing with this.
You're not alone in feeling that way but i am sure there are plenty of OTHER people besides your parents and your future inlaws who are happy and excited for you.
I know we all are!
It's hard to plan everything and do it all by yourself. It's even harder when people just straight up don't care.
Just remember that at the end of the day it doesnt matter what anyone else thinks. The wedding is about you and your fiance. As long as you two are happy that's all that matters.

Best of luck. we're all here to help you with your plans if you need it.

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So sorry you have to deal with that. FH and I have been together for 6 years and sometimes I feel like, because we've been together so long, the wedding doesnt seem that serious to people. Maybe you should have a sit down with all the parents and explain how you feel. Unfortunately, sometimes people dont realize how messed up theyre behaving until someone speaks up. This is supposed to be a happy time for you and them and they need to start acting that way.

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Im so sorry you have to deal with all of this ....It makes it so hard to have a special day when no one seems happy about it .....You will have an amazing day and you will love it !!

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I can sort of relate. except it's more my dad doesn't seem to understand what a save the date is, i've had to explain 100x it's not an invitation! he still won't give addresses for his friends saying maybe they won't be friends by then, or his boss who is a good friend maybe he won't work there by then. like in 9 months he's gonna suddenly have a new job! lol. he's been there for like 10 years! on top of that he's a man so of course he doesn't care about the wedding lol, well details that is. anyway you should sit down with all the parents and explain how you feel. that's what I did with my mom and grandma when I thought they didn't care.

in my case they just thought I wanted to be left alone to plan it all my way, I do want that but I need help too! so maybe you just need to sit down and explain you want help.

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that stinks. just remember that it's important to you and your FH even if the rest of the world doesn't seem to care. do what makes you happy!

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oh my gosh i am so sorry that you have to deal with this!! you are supposed to be soo happy and excited right now (and belive me you aren`t the only one who isn`t) and they are all bringing you down. i know that my FH has been my rock thru all the annoying and stupid family trying to change things so just know you can alwasy depend on him and US!!!! so cheer up and do things your way....this way you know later on that you got what you wanted on your big day! if no one else wants anything then screw them! you and FH will have the best day of your lives!

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First of all if you need to talk/vent/help with planning all of the girls here seem to listen and respond to every single minute little detail. We're all interested in your wedding! But I know thats not like family. That being said, if your grandparents/family overseas are the ones excited for your wedding, and that is what you wanted to do from the beginning, I say do what you wanted to do! If the rest of your family decides to come around before then, then I'm sure they'll be happy to fly over for your wedding.

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Thank you all for ur support, it feels really good when there is someone that listens, and even has similar problem as mine, i thought that i was the only one.... its good to say what is on your heart, not keep it inside....time will show what i will do....so far i feel realy 'down'.....But thank you all for being there for me...

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I totally understand what you are going through. We are going through the same just in differnt situations.

My mom and stepdad hates FH.
EVERYONE else my family loves him.
Everytime I bring up the wedding, she is alway complaining. 'why are you wasting money?' 'do you have a house to live in?' 'why bother having a wedding?'

Give me a break already.

The best advise I can give you: This is your life and your day. Your parents are ALREADY LIVING THEIR LIVES. It's time to concentrate and yours and FH. You guys will be living together and making a family.

Dont NOT have a wedding because of them. Do it for you because down the road you might regret it and be very upset with parents.

Be strong and remember you're not alone in this.

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Thank you....ur words are really strong....

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im sorry you feel this way, but we all care about your wedding and are here to help in any way we can!

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Im really sorry to hear that. Its not fun. This is your day and it only happens once's so when you get treated like its nothing spacial then i can see how hard that can be