I was talking with my friend the other day who is getting married in 2009. She told me that she is only waiting this long to allow her parents to save enough money for the wedding she is getting. Because she said she is not cheapying out on anything and that her parents should be greatful that she is allowing them to have 2 years to save up!!!
I was like W T F!!!!! HELLO!!! I don't know maybe it is just me but marriage is a partnership and FH and I are in this together-emotionally and financially. I mean yes FH and I are paying for our own wedding with little help from both sides. But I am extremely grateful my parents are buying my dress and Fh's grandma is helping us pay for our honeymoon.
But no way in hell would i ever expect my parents to pay for my whole wedding. I have 5 other brothers and sisters and I know my dad works his butt off for us to have nice things and a nice house but I know he shouldnt have to pay for 5 peoples weddings or event he 3 daughters that he has!! Come on now haha. But also it feels good for me and fh to say 'hey we paid for this on our own this is wonderful'.
Plus another thing is I know Fhs parents didnt contribute anything well as of yet. I dont expect them to nor do i care if they dont- if they do i am so grateful. It was my decision to have the wedding i want not my parents of Fh's. But my friend was telling me I should be pissed my dad isnt paying first of all and second i should be pissed fh's parents havent chipped in....
I cant stand people who are ungrateful
Toucan311
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Wow she's ballsey for saying that!! Is this the one who talked about ring size too?
Espo22
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well just wait until they are married and move in together and OMG have to pay things themselves
Kimbalina
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Wow!! I is sad to see how skewed her view is on YOUR situatuion! Hope that you haven't hurt yourself while bitting your tounge!
xXxNovember08xXx
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wow how generous.... enough time for her parents to save up....
some ppl are fortonate enough to want that... but i woudl not personally ler that decide when i was to get married....
JMO
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IMO that is very rude of her....
you can have a beautiful wedding and not have to pay for the most expensive things!
And, the fact that she said they should be greatful she is giving them 2 years to save is crazy...
she should be greatful with any contribution they decided to give if any!
And of coursw, I dont mean this to be offensive to to insult anyone...
SparklingBride10
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sorry for the crash, I'm actually happy that me and FH are paying for it ourselves. It'll be our first big step together. That is crazy that she said she is giving her parents 2 years to save up the money, to each is own I guess.
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Wow she's ballsey for saying that!! Is this the one who talked about ring size too?
no haha she actually has gotten better. this is a friend of mine who likes to be my friend at her convenience
cbcf
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Posted by Espo22
well just wait until they are married and move in together and OMG have to pay things themselves
yeah actually they moved in together recently but only because her fh's dad gave them his apt which he owns and is paid off already
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Posted by ItalianBride428
IMO that is very rude of her....
you can have a beautiful wedding and not have to pay for the most expensive things!
And, the fact that she said they should be greatful she is giving them 2 years to save is crazy...
she should be greatful with any contribution they decided to give if any!
And of coursw, I dont mean this to be offensive to to insult anyone...
of course...i understand what you are saying i mean yes there are people who are grateful enough to have their parents pay and that is wonderful and they are very lucky!!! but to say that her parents should be grateful what!!??? lol
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that's ridiculous, it's not written anywhere that the parents have to pay for the wedding or should be expected too. she's got some nerve, especially voicing it like she's doing them some huge favor. she's a piece of work!
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her parents are very lucky to have such a generous daughter!! two whole years!! what a peach
ItalianBride428
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Posted by cbcf
Posted by ItalianBride428
IMO that is very rude of her....
you can have a beautiful wedding and not have to pay for the most expensive things!
And, the fact that she said they should be greatful she is giving them 2 years to save is crazy...
she should be greatful with any contribution they decided to give if any!
And of coursw, I dont mean this to be offensive to to insult anyone...
of course...i understand what you are saying i mean yes there are people who are grateful enough to have their parents pay and that is wonderful and they are very lucky!!! but to say that her parents should be grateful what!!??? lol
exactly!!!!
ItalianBride428
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this reminds me of something else i either read on here or saw on TV...
I vaguely remember there was mentioning of putting how much per plate someone was paying on the invite...
IMO, I thought it was rude also...but to each their own I guess!
nifheim
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people like that get divorced - grow old horribly and then die alone.
MikeandJess
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honestly, she probably only feels that way as a result of how her parents raised her (I know I'm getting all psychology on this topic) but they probably spoiled her rotten when she was younger and now expects these things and has a tantrum when she doesn't get exactly what she wants. I can be off but I know of a similar situation and it definitely has to do with her parents having a problem saying no
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im kind of glad that FH and I are planning and paying for the wedding ourselves....i dont mean this in a show offy way but i know that people in my family - their jaws are going to hit the floor when they come to our wedding - and for them to know that we did it all on our own - thats going to be an awesome feeling - and we have a few tricks up our sleeves that even our parents won't know about - and i know our wedding will beautiful and i know its going to be a great feeling knowing that we accomplished it all - and hopefully paid for it all in cash (hopefully!!! ).....besides i would feel uncomfortable if our parents were paying for the whole thing - b.c there are things that i really want and am totally willing to pay for - that i would feel uncomfortable asking for if someone else was footing the bill.....
your friend sounds immature and selfish.....try not to let it get to you.......her parents must be so proud!!
