Not sure what I should do
Alright so something’s been bothering me for a bit and I need maybe some feedback/opinions from you ladies.
Let me set it up for you. My father lost his job a few years ago because the company he worked for closed because the owner was a scumbag. The owner basically screwed every worker over and they all lost their retirement. My father worked for the company for over 20 years so now my parents have to rely on my mother’s retirement. So money is real tight for my parents. This isn’t the issue and we’ve been able to support ourselves. So I’m not worried about it.
When my FH and I got engaged, I had to tell my FH’s mother about the situation. It went fine and we agreed that they would help us out with the wedding too. So now my parents are helping with certain aspects, FH’s parents are helping with venue, and FH and I are doing the rest. Since we’re a little over 14 months away from the wedding, all that’s been booked is the venue and dj (I’m doing things slowly). FH’s parents are helping with the venue, so a great deal (about ½) of the venue is already paid off. My parents are doing invites, STDs, flowers, dress, bridal shower (my MOH –sister needs help), and all the other small things –all things that can’t be done quite yet.
So here’s the real issue…this past week we went to go book our dj –something FH and I are paying for on our own. As we were on our way, my FH’s father calls him and basically asks what’s going on with my parents and why aren’t they paying anything. He wants t know what they’re paying for and basically how much it’s all going to cost. I got upset. I understand he wants to know how his money is being put to use and that he’s not paying for everything but in a way I felt that in a way, he was calling my parents poor. He just wasn’t realizing that what my parents are taking care of doesn’t happen yet until the wedding gets closer. It also bothered me because my FMIL knows all this and she didn’t say anything. Once my FH explained that what my parents are planning to pay for my FFIL was fine. I just couldn’t (and still can’t) believe that this is happening now.
I just feel like everything is awkward now when I see them. It’s probably going to bother me for a while.
Am I overreacting? Should I just let it go?
Let me set it up for you. My father lost his job a few years ago because the company he worked for closed because the owner was a scumbag. The owner basically screwed every worker over and they all lost their retirement. My father worked for the company for over 20 years so now my parents have to rely on my mother’s retirement. So money is real tight for my parents. This isn’t the issue and we’ve been able to support ourselves. So I’m not worried about it.
When my FH and I got engaged, I had to tell my FH’s mother about the situation. It went fine and we agreed that they would help us out with the wedding too. So now my parents are helping with certain aspects, FH’s parents are helping with venue, and FH and I are doing the rest. Since we’re a little over 14 months away from the wedding, all that’s been booked is the venue and dj (I’m doing things slowly). FH’s parents are helping with the venue, so a great deal (about ½) of the venue is already paid off. My parents are doing invites, STDs, flowers, dress, bridal shower (my MOH –sister needs help), and all the other small things –all things that can’t be done quite yet.
So here’s the real issue…this past week we went to go book our dj –something FH and I are paying for on our own. As we were on our way, my FH’s father calls him and basically asks what’s going on with my parents and why aren’t they paying anything. He wants t know what they’re paying for and basically how much it’s all going to cost. I got upset. I understand he wants to know how his money is being put to use and that he’s not paying for everything but in a way I felt that in a way, he was calling my parents poor. He just wasn’t realizing that what my parents are taking care of doesn’t happen yet until the wedding gets closer. It also bothered me because my FMIL knows all this and she didn’t say anything. Once my FH explained that what my parents are planning to pay for my FFIL was fine. I just couldn’t (and still can’t) believe that this is happening now.
I just feel like everything is awkward now when I see them. It’s probably going to bother me for a while.
Am I overreacting? Should I just let it go?
