not sure what to say

so this may be a long story, but it has a point. LOL. One of my best friends is getting married on 3 weeks. My DH is playing teh ceremony music on his acoustic electric guitar. My friend L and I were good friends with a girl in 7th grade, lets call her J, and then she moved away. L and I stayed in touch with her for a couple of years and then it became less and less. Then through the magic of email and later myspace, and now facebook we are sort of more in touch with her. Well L and J both moved to the same city and now spend time together. A few weeks ago was the shower and I saw J again for the first time since 8th or 9th grade. About 10 or so years ago. We were talking about the music and L said she wanted someone to sing. So J said she would sing. Dh said he would play the music and would send it to her for her to practice too. It just ahd to be something common so he didn't have to like learn a new song. he has a lot going on and is very busy. So J chose a song and DH knows it. Well before he could even reposnd to her she has like been stalking him on facebook- he doesnt go on everyday but the other day he went on and had 8 messages from her and she is like freaking out cus he didn't get back to her right away. I told her last week he was really busy and would be getting home after 2am from the studio and needed to wait a couple weeks for hings to die down. Well she has been freaking out and emailing L freaking out. Shealso has said some very rude things to my DH through the message thing on facebook. She told him if he had any sort of talent that this would have been done by now. She has met my DH once for like an hour. So he is pretty p8ssed and doesn't want to work on this with her anymore and said she should just find an instrumental for the song and he would play it through his amp. But I don't think L likes this idea. i think she really wants them to do it together. I didn't tell her how J is being really rude to him. i said she has been emailing him a lot and is being a bit annoying, but i dont want to stress her out. but I think DH wants nothing to do with this girl. And really this is how she acted when we were 13. Its like she really hasn't chaged at all! LOL. Anyway, anyone know what I should say to the bride without upsetting her or stressing her out but to make her realize its just better if she finds her own background music rather than my DH playing for her? LOL thanks! Phew felt good to get this off my chest!!

honesty is the best policy....really no point in beating around the bush on this one.

gl

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Posted by kslmbuggie

honesty is the best policy....really no point in beating around the bush on this one.

gl

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Ditto...there is no beating around the bush on this one you just have to tell her the truth.

tell serge to suck it up and just put the music together. its for L and u know itll be better if he does it than if u let her do it. so think about the bride...not the annoying girl that u want to punch.

or tell L that she is being obnoxious and tell L to tell her to shut her mouth and patiently wait til serge gets the stuff to her.

or ill call her for L instead


oops didnt know we were calling her L hahaha just changed that

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Posted by snowcutie82

tell serge to suck it up and just put the music together. its for L and u know itll be better if he does it than if u let her do it. so think about the bride...not the annoying girl that u want to punch.

or tell L that she is being obnoxious and tell L to tell her to shut her mouth and patiently wait til serge gets the stuff to her.

or ill call her for L instead


oops didnt know we were calling her L hahaha just changed that

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I kinda agree Gina. I think you should call J up and say listen, you are being rude but we are doing this for L and we told her we would, so we are still doing it even though you're making things very difficult and are being insulting. we'll get you the music soon. stop pestering my DH and all will be fine.

If DH is realllllly against that, then I think you need to tell L. But she's a really good friend of yours, right? I hope that DH can do this for you and her.

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Posted by snowcutie82

tell serge to suck it up and just put the music together. its for L and u know itll be better if he does it than if u let her do it. so think about the bride...not the annoying girl that u want to punch.

or tell L that she is being obnoxious and tell L to tell her to shut her mouth and patiently wait til serge gets the stuff to her.

or ill call her for L instead


oops didnt know we were calling her L hahaha just changed that

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Just saw this now. She started IMing him last night like out of control. I went online and started talking to her. DH said he is going to play a recording on the piano send it to her, and loop it through his amp and then play along with the guitar that night. This girl can't even make it to the rehearsal or anything, so they can't even practice together. so 'L' doesn't need to know about it now- its worked out. I didn't want to stress her out even more. She has been really stressed at work, so I didn't want to throw more at her. But J is seriously as annoying as ever!!

Sorry that 'J' is giving you guys all that trouble- my advice is get her a man & get her laid- she will be too busy to bother you