NQWR: FSIL issues

I'm sorry- I have issues with FMIL.

FH's SIL is pregnant with their second and is due March 1. FMIL complained to my sister yesterday over the phone regarding Shower planning that they had wanted to take a Caribbean vacation, but FSIL had the nerve to get pregnant. Seriously? Seriously? Who says that?

No concept of anything going on around her- just her important world. Sigh

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this- have you ever tried putting your foot down (nicely?). I did at the beginning of planning- I said this is what we are doing, if you want to contribute, that would be great- if you don't want to contribute, I don't want to hear any complaints.

i tried..she dropped out of the wedding twice but he insists shes in it...'shes all he has, familywise'. she's 18 years old. I'm at a loss, she takes advantage of people until she gets what she wants/needs then she basically treats them like trash :'(


how could a FMIL be so evil..ugh. I wish I had the opportunity to meet his mother...she passed away two years ago , but from what I hear she was a sweet woman..He's like his mother

That sucks. Was she a BM? Can you just have her do a reading?

I think you and FH need to sit down with her and explain all your concerns. Wedding planning can't just be changed at the last minute- if she commits, she needs to stay committed.

Sigh- good luck

Sounds like that needs to happen. She was...well is a BM, not my decision, but all my brothers are his groomsmen.

Ugh I feel your pain somewhat... FSIL is actually older than FH by 10 years, and plays the 'mother role' for FH since his mom dropped out of the picture awhile ago. She's really nice and pretty much obsessive over FH, but pretty much could give a sh*t about me...

Within 10 minutes of the proposal FH said that she needed to be in the BP, because when he told her he was proposing she asked to be a bridesmaid, Ughhhh. I know she will be a giant headache. When we told her the date she flipped out because its the end of the school year and she has three kids, and its too expensive to fly the whole family across the country. I was like well we're not moving it to your hometown so you don't have to travel.... I don't know what to tell ya!

I say be as nice as possible, and suck up what you can. I have done my absolute best to not bad mouth her to FH ever except for about one time when she really upset me. I think that if you started something, or said something about her, its something that will stay in the back of their heads way after she grows up.

Thanks..I'm gonna try to ignore it. She's awful I cant ven get into it