NWR

snydl40 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 12:44 AM

NWR

My mom has Thanksgiving every year. Now we have about 25 people which is a lot-we like to keep things a little smaller. That being said...

My mom and step father went out to dinner with some friends the other night. So they ask my mom: 'What are you guys doing for Thanksgiving?' My mom says: 'We are having my family over (not my step father's family-we get together with them in the afternoon on X-mas day). So the wife says to my mom: 'Can we come to your Thanksgiving?' !!!!!!!!!! My mom ignored her until she asked again and put my mom on the spot-so my mom felt forced to say yes. I told her that at Thanksgiving I am going to ask them: ' What are you guys doing for X-mas-Can I come over?'

Now I told my mom I would post this and ask my girls what you thought-honestly. Is this not really friggin RUDE???????

Edited for spelling

beachbum05 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 01:00 AM

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wow. Are these friends going through tough times? If so, that's the ONLY way that it wouldn't be rude...and even then it's still uncomfortable to put your mom on the spot!

Yikes.

Save me some turkey.

JeanineP2B Posted: Oct 31, 2006 01:01 AM

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Yaaaa!!! Who asks that?!!!

Thanksgiving is totally for close relatives and perhaps even close friends IF they are invited! Why ask IMO?

But hey, what can you do? The more the merrier! Just tell them to bring a dish!

billandme Posted: Oct 31, 2006 01:01 AM

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OH MY GOSH!!!!!!

SOOOOOOOOO RUDE!!!!!!

snydl40 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 01:14 AM

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No joke-they have MILLIONS of dollars! Definetly not hard up and not that close of friends either!

snydl40 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 01:15 AM

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I'll save you some turkey beach bum-we'll eat it at the Old field club.

CASJLL Posted: Oct 31, 2006 11:37 AM

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wow. some people!

libby2595 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 11:45 AM

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Posted by snydl40

No joke-they have MILLIONS of dollars! Definetly not hard up and not that close of friends either!

inviting themselves to other people's thanksgiving dinner is probably the way they came to have millions... just my $.02

btw... VERY RUDE

ewickens Posted: Oct 31, 2006 11:46 AM

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WOW!!!!!!! That's beyond rude!!!!!!!!!!

NY031978 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 11:48 AM

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wow! ppl can be so rude....id never ask someone if we can join them for a family dinner.....

snydl40 Posted: Oct 31, 2006 02:27 PM

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Thank you! We wouldn't have minded if they had even hinted that they had no where to go-my mom would have invited them right away-but it was just the fact that they invited themselves.

Kara and Todd Posted: Oct 31, 2006 02:28 PM

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Very rude.

moonlitee Posted: Oct 31, 2006 04:04 PM

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Posted by snydl40

Thank you! We wouldn't have minded if they had even hinted that they had no where to go-my mom would have invited them right away-but it was just the fact that they invited themselves.

maybe they are just lonely? but I do agree thought the way they went about it is RUDE

Tiggeruth Posted: Oct 31, 2006 04:14 PM

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Maybe after hearign what a lovely thanksgiving was being planned and themselves not having plans they asked. It is rude, but they coudl be lonely. Maybe they wont really come...

Bambubabe Posted: Oct 31, 2006 05:01 PM

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Ummmm, yeah that's WAY RUDE!!!!

Spinoff to that.

My mom invites my FILs to Thanksgiving this year; kind of a blending of families thing, Well, FMIL declines and says, no thanks, we're going to just stay home and have steak this year.

STEAK. Instead of a delicious home cooked wonderful Martha Stewartesque meal. Am I wrong to be offended?

Michy Posted: Oct 31, 2006 05:04 PM

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That is extremly rude and I feel bad that your mom was put on the spot.

jgl Posted: Oct 31, 2006 06:29 PM

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that is so rude!!!!! I def think you should invite yourself to her house for xmas.

I had a similar thing happen. When we got engaged my Mom's sister's sister-in-law called my mom to congratulate us. Then she asked 'I'm going to be invited to the engagement party right?' . My mom didn't know what to say so she just said that we didn't know what we were doing yet. How nervy!!! I couldn't believe it.. I would never.. i would just feel like the biggest @$$!!!!

jgl Posted: Oct 31, 2006 06:32 PM

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Posted by Bambubabe

Ummmm, yeah that's WAY RUDE!!!!

Spinoff to that.

My mom invites my FILs to Thanksgiving this year; kind of a blending of families thing, Well, FMIL declines and says, no thanks, we're going to just stay home and have steak this year.

STEAK. Instead of a delicious home cooked wonderful Martha Stewartesque meal. Am I wrong to be offended?

You are not wrong at all.. that is soooooo rude!!! What does FH say?

My mom always tried to get together with FH's parents. They always decline saying that she doesnt know when her husband is working (FDNY). I understand that he is busy and works a lot but make an effort for christ sake!

My FH doesn't know what to do with his mom. I feel bad because my mom tries so hard and they make no effort

Bambubabe Posted: Oct 31, 2006 06:53 PM

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Posted by jgl

Posted by Bambubabe

Ummmm, yeah that's WAY RUDE!!!!

Spinoff to that.

My mom invites my FILs to Thanksgiving this year; kind of a blending of families thing, Well, FMIL declines and says, no thanks, we're going to just stay home and have steak this year.

STEAK. Instead of a delicious home cooked wonderful Martha Stewartesque meal. Am I wrong to be offended?

You are not wrong at all.. that is soooooo rude!!! What does FH say?

My mom always tried to get together with FH's parents. They always decline saying that she doesnt know when her husband is working (FDNY). I understand that he is busy and works a lot but make an effort for christ sake!

My FH doesn't know what to do with his mom. I feel bad because my mom tries so hard and they make no effort

FH thinks I shouldn't care but I DO. I think it's ok to decline an invitation as long as you do it with manners. STEAK?! Who eats steak on TG?

Anyway, I have the same prob as you. FILs are not into being social with my parents. It's a little weird, I think. i mean, just go out for a dinner...It takes like 2 hours and you're obligation is done!