NWR but i just need someone to talk to

soo i just need to vent bec i feel like i dont have anyone else to vent too.. so if you dont feel like reading thats fine lol

but i feel like FH just doesnt get things sometimes like how much i have given up (and i dont wanna say sacrificed but sometimes feels like it) not to be with him but for him.. i went to college upstate and thats where we met and he happened to be from that town so we are now living at his parents and now that i work full time up here since graduation i have barely seen my parents and i dont have any friends up here and its like i do as much friending (i know not a word) through here and its just so frustrating when he doesnt seem to get it. and i dont want to bother him by telling him that but its like why couldnt we have lived at my parents since im soo much closer to them than he is his parents...

i just wish we had the extra money to move out at least.. then i would be fine lol

and i cant talk to my mom bec she doesnt stop saying well why dont you just come live at home til the wedding.. and im finally doing good at a job i like so far so i dont wanna just up and quit four months after i got it.

ok done thanks for listening if you read sorry soo long

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Posted by rendel

You really should speak to FH about how you are feeling!!!! It is no good to hold these feelings inside!!!!!

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ITA!!!! Talk to him!! Tell him how you feel, you don't want it to get worse!

Bummer

But you need to calmly explain why you are upset and kind of lonely. He needs to be concerned with your needs as well as his!

I completely agree with the girls. You NEEEED to express this to FH. If you hold it inside, you will only grow to resent him and all of these things in the future. You don't want it to blow up closer to the wedding you know?

One of my close friends just went through this actually. She is completely non-confrontational and held all of her feelings inside about lots of things including seeing his family more. To sum up, they recently broke up.

I'm sure it will work out, but definitely let it out!

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Posted by HeatherLynna

I completely agree with the girls. You NEEEED to express this to FH. If you hold it inside, you will only grow to resent him and all of these things in the future. You don't want it to blow up closer to the wedding you know?

One of my close friends just went through this actually. She is completely non-confrontational and held all of her feelings inside about lots of things including seeing his family more. To sum up, they recently broke up.

I'm sure it will work out, but definitely let it out!

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well i hope that isnt the case here.. lol luckily we only have a year to the wedding so im gonna talk to him and let him now (which means of course ill cry haha) but i just need to realize more that it is helping us a lot with saving for the wedding and that it is for a great reason and will be worth it..

i just need to go home more often and maybe even get a G2G in too haha

Dont hold things in hon. When i do that it builds slowly til i explode.

It must be hard being so far away from your friends and family. Because you have that new job you should just make an effort to go and visit more.

Im sorry youre in this situation. Hopefully once the wedding is over you can movw back down here

I actually did exactly what you are doing, minus the engagement. I am from Alaska and I met my ex in college. When we graduated I moved into his parents house in Ronkonkoma to stay with my ex. It became super stressful and we didn't make it, but not to say it won't work for you. My ex was an a$$! haha! So totally different! Anyhow I am still in Long island and completely in love so you can get through the distance from your family. I'm super close with my family and it's really hard sometimes, but you can't ask FH to understand because if he has never gone through he will NEVER get it! It's something that many people just don't understand.....

Talk to FH and tell him how you feel...thats all you can do! And talk to your family as much as possible, it helps!