NWR--but I'm in tears at my desk

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Dec 05, 2005 03:12 PM

NWR--but I'm in tears at my desk

7706bride Posted: Dec 05, 2005 03:13 PM

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i'm sorry you are going through this.

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Dec 05, 2005 03:14 PM

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Mrs. Powell Posted: Dec 05, 2005 03:14 PM

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Sorry you are going through this. Cheer up.

hmpena Posted: Dec 05, 2005 03:14 PM

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I am so sorry you are going through this! Is there any way you can speak to him about this? Otherwise, can you speak to his supervisor to file a complaint?

All I can offer are

brooklynbridezilla Posted: Dec 05, 2005 03:18 PM

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Did he tell you specific examples of you displaying excessive emotion? I would ask.

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Dec 05, 2005 03:18 PM

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glinda_goodwitch Posted: Dec 05, 2005 03:21 PM

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brooklynbridezilla Posted: Dec 05, 2005 03:40 PM

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Posted by glinda_goodwitch

Posted by brooklynbridezilla

Did he tell you specific examples of you displaying excessive emotion? I would ask.

Yes, he did. It was little things, like saying I worked really hard on writing a protocol that I gave him to edit. There were some other ones too, but nothing as bad as my other lab mate crying to him when her work isn't going well. And my other labmate and him are friends and he drives my advisor to work a lot. So they don't have a strictly professional relationship. They are buddy buddy, and I don't have that relationship with him. So I don't understand.

Ahhh. Favoritism at its best. I'm really sorry!

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Dec 05, 2005 03:42 PM

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MrsH1156 Posted: Dec 05, 2005 04:12 PM

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I'm so sorry! Is there someone you can go to about this? Someone other than your advisor?

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Dec 05, 2005 04:42 PM

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I really hate being in this lab. But I think I waited way too long to do anything about it and now I'm stuck here, or I have to start over and take even longer to finish

October Bliss Posted: Dec 05, 2005 04:44 PM

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Here's a . Sorry you have to put up with this type of behavior.

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Dec 05, 2005 04:54 PM

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Thanks, girls. Of course I called FH first, but you girls were the next in line for me to come to.

DUCKS2001 Posted: Dec 05, 2005 05:43 PM

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YOU NEED a HUGE HUG

beautyq115 Posted: Dec 05, 2005 05:49 PM

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You definetely need a hug I definetely know the feeling of feeling badly at work

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Dec 05, 2005 06:08 PM

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I REALLY wish I didn't have to invite him to the wedding, but I already sent out STDs. I thought I had to invite my whole lab since we all went to my labmate's wedding. But that was in MD where we all live. Little did I realize I probably could have gotten away with not inviting them since my wedding is out of state.

Soon2BeMrs2006 Posted: Dec 05, 2005 06:08 PM

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i'm so sorry you have to deal with this.

lipglossjunky73 Posted: Dec 05, 2005 07:24 PM

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I get the 'professional' comments all the time because I'm an autism and behavior consultant from NS-LIJ and I'm in schools all the time - it drives me crazy because I feel I never can be myself - I've shed some tears over it as well - I completely understand!!!

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Dec 06, 2005 12:40 AM

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Posted by lipglossjunky73

I get the 'professional' comments all the time because I'm an autism and behavior consultant from NS-LIJ and I'm in schools all the time - it drives me crazy because I feel I never can be myself - I've shed some tears over it as well - I completely understand!!!

That's exactly how I feel, like I can't express myself without getting called on it.