NWR: Feeling of Indifference?

Anyone ever feel like they don't care about anything?

Lately, I've been going through a period in which I feel like don't really care about anything except my family and FH. I don't care about cleaning, doing laundry, cooking, work, working out, eating well, anything. I feel like those things I know I 'should' do are weighing me down, and I feel guilty for not doing them, but that doesn't make me do them. Like right now, I should be cooking, paying a bill online, working out, doing laundry or checking my work email - anything but browsing the internet. I do all of these things eventually - some sooner than others - but it takes me a long time to get the OOMPH to do them.

Other times, I feel so passionate about all of these things, or one in particular, that I can't wait to do it. (Except pay bills ).

There's much more to this in my mind - and I think a lot of it has to do with work and feeling like I do not have a 'calling' ... but I just wanted to know, does anyone else feel this way ever? How do you cope with it? I feel like I have lost all motivation, and I just want to give up on the exercising, healthy cooking, cleaning - everything - and just lay on the couch.

Do I need help??

PLEASE do not quote me.

Jenn

its completely normal. . .I've gone through phases like that too, I think most people do at one point or another. Its a combination of stress and being tired - and I always found that the less I did, the less I wanted I do - its a snowball.

If you're feeling like you aren't doing something fabulous at work, can you supplement it with something else? I was upset because I felt like I always thought my job would be something that really 'made a difference' I think I got kind of depressed when I realized that all I was going to be was an accountant - and I started looking for other things to make me feel good, ie, I got involved in raising money for breast cancer research and now I'm looking to join a book club (I'm such a dork, I know)

I don't think you need 'help' I think that you just need to find something that makes you feel good about you. . separate from Matt and your family. The more you things you do, the more you will be motivated to do!

Call me if you need to vent!!

PS - I'm drinking a Hoegaarden right now

It's called:
Procrastination. Join my club.

When reading your post, I almost felt like I was reading one of those teen magazine articles where you take a quiz and it matches your life to description a, b, or c.

The description you just made of what you're going through describes me PERFECTLY! My wedding was a month ago and I still haven't sent the invites out. I know that's horrible etiquette. I also haven't even STARTED applying for a job yet when all my other friends in my field started months ago but I used the 'well I'm getting married soon' excuse and claimed it was too much to focus on. I just keep making excuses for myself. Either something or other is too this or too that.

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Posted by queenbean

When reading your post, I almost felt like I was reading one of those teen magazine articles where you take a quiz and it matches your life to description a, b, or c.

The description you just made of what you're going through describes me PERFECTLY! My wedding was a month ago and I still haven't sent the invites out. I know that's horrible etiquette. I also haven't even STARTED applying for a job yet when all my other friends in my field started months ago but I used the 'well I'm getting married soon' excuse and claimed it was too much to focus on. I just keep making excuses for myself. Either something or other is too this or too that.

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wait, what invites haven't you sent out?

back to the OP: we ALL feel this way. I am a lazy POS. I still never sent out shower thank yous. My apt is a mess and only worse since DH moved in. I get all these things in my head that i want to do after work and then I end up going out or coming home and passing out. there is nothing wrong with you, trust me.

i think everyone goes through a period like that and it tends to cycle, hang in there and it will turn around
if you want a work out buddy let me know
and there is no harm in getting a house cleaner for a little while too

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Posted by snwb08

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Posted by queenbean

When reading your post, I almost felt like I was reading one of those teen magazine articles where you take a quiz and it matches your life to description a, b, or c.

The description you just made of what you're going through describes me PERFECTLY! My wedding was a month ago and I still haven't sent the invites out. I know that's horrible etiquette. I also haven't even STARTED applying for a job yet when all my other friends in my field started months ago but I used the 'well I'm getting married soon' excuse and claimed it was too much to focus on. I just keep making excuses for myself. Either something or other is too this or too that.

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wait, what invites haven't you sent out?

back to the OP: we ALL feel this way. I am a lazy POS. I still never sent out shower thank yous. My apt is a mess and only worse since DH moved in. I get all these things in my head that i want to do after work and then I end up going out or coming home and passing out. there is nothing wrong with you, trust me.

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Oops!!! I meant I still haven't sent out my thank-yous, not invites. See?? That's how stressed I am, I can't even type the right word

yea, maybe you are just burned out and need to go to bed at 9pm one night and just read a magazine and then go to sleep. that's what helps revive me when i am feeling burned out. like last night. i read dog fancy

I think I went thru the same thing around the same time before the wedding. Its ok to be like this for a bit. Wedding work and life makes your head spin a bit. Take th time for yourself but if you notice yourself in this rut fo rmore than a week then i would say talk to someone That may just do the trick.

BTW I still feel like that at times. I give myself the day(s) and then get back in the groove .

I feel ya there. I go through the period where I feel sort of numb regarding the things around me. Cleaning, laundry, cooking...haha whats that?? I used to be so good about it but now I could care less. We all go through it so don't feel like your the only one. I wish I could say this is how you get out of it....but maybe when someone figures it out they can let us know.

I am here with you.
I feel like lately I HATE everything and have to make an effort to do the things I usually do or am sopposed to do.

Thanks ladies. It is more than feeling lazy .. it's a feeling of 'why bother? it's just gonna get dirty tomorrow again.' Or, 'why work out? who cares what I look like?' And the utter frustration I feel with not having a job I like or care about - it just *****.



I am better today, but am getting my . next week, so that would explain some of this. The job thing is always there though.

Work is crazy busy so I won't be on much today, but I wanted to say thanks for responding.

And Coleen, I have wanted to join a book club for ages. Let's chat, we can start our own. I have a few other peeps who are interested.

I feel exactly the same way more often lately - I feel kind of stuck in place. I believe everyone goes through this at different times in life. With all of the changes in our (fellow brides) lives life can be overwhelming. I hope you feel better soon

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Posted by queenbean

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Posted by snwb08

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Posted by queenbean

When reading your post, I almost felt like I was reading one of those teen magazine articles where you take a quiz and it matches your life to description a, b, or c.

The description you just made of what you're going through describes me PERFECTLY! My wedding was a month ago and I still haven't sent the invites out. I know that's horrible etiquette. I also haven't even STARTED applying for a job yet when all my other friends in my field started months ago but I used the 'well I'm getting married soon' excuse and claimed it was too much to focus on. I just keep making excuses for myself. Either something or other is too this or too that.

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wait, what invites haven't you sent out?

back to the OP: we ALL feel this way. I am a lazy POS. I still never sent out shower thank yous. My apt is a mess and only worse since DH moved in. I get all these things in my head that i want to do after work and then I end up going out or coming home and passing out. there is nothing wrong with you, trust me.

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Oops!!! I meant I still haven't sent out my thank-yous, not invites. See?? That's how stressed I am, I can't even type the right word

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for the wedding??! it hasn't even been a month - I haven't even ordered mine yet.

i'm still lax in sending shower thank yous.

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Posted by JBoothIn2008

Thanks ladies. It is more than feeling lazy .. it's a feeling of 'why bother? it's just gonna get dirty tomorrow again.' Or, 'why work out? who cares what I look like?' And the utter frustration I feel with not having a job I like or care about - it just *****.



I am better today, but am getting my . next week, so that would explain some of this. The job thing is always there though.

Work is crazy busy so I won't be on much today, but I wanted to say thanks for responding.

And Coleen, I have wanted to join a book club for ages. Let's chat, we can start our own. I have a few other peeps who are interested.

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I would really love to start a book club, we should figure something out

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Posted by MrsHtobe

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Posted by JBoothIn2008

Thanks ladies. It is more than feeling lazy .. it's a feeling of 'why bother? it's just gonna get dirty tomorrow again.' Or, 'why work out? who cares what I look like?' And the utter frustration I feel with not having a job I like or care about - it just *****.



I am better today, but am getting my . next week, so that would explain some of this. The job thing is always there though.

Work is crazy busy so I won't be on much today, but I wanted to say thanks for responding.

And Coleen, I have wanted to join a book club for ages. Let's chat, we can start our own. I have a few other peeps who are interested.

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I would really love to start a book club, we should figure something out

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Definitely!