As I told you girls before FH's mother and I don't talk over my dogs., I have been trying and trying and trying to be the 'bigger person' but to no avail. So, the other day FH's aunt needed someone to pickup FMIL. She had stated to her son's fiance (Teneisha) that she would ask me. Teneisha reminded FH's aunt that FMIL doesn't like me. The aunt says, 'Yes your right because Barbara (FMIL) can't stand that b&^%*. I was told by Teneisha that she hates me and hopes that my wedding blows up in my face.
I have explaned to FH that he should have a talk with his mother to get to the bottom of her issues. Also, I told FH that:
1. Your mother better be on her best behavior at the wedding unless she will be escorted out on a stretcher.
Now because of this I don't want her attending my wedding. If she does I am seating her by the kitchen. Maybe she will blend in with the hired help.
I don't know what to do. She might mess up my wedding.
Sorry for the long vent.
NEED ADVICE!!
TIA
MrsDtoBe09
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I feel like my stomach just dropped to my knees when I read this. I can't relate.. FH's mom lives in Florida and I've never even met her but I'm so sad for you... marrying FH means joining families... I'm new and I don't know your situation with your dogs but I'm hoping things work out for you. I dont know how FMILs get so nasty... you're making their baby boy so happy. Jealousy maybe? Don't let it ruin this special time.
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Dog explanation: I have (2) shih tzu's that I breeded. FMIL went and promised her girlfriend a dog without tellng me at my expense. FMIL says to me, 'My girlfriend wants a dog and I told her I would get her one from you. And, Oh, yes I'm not paying you for it. She never got the dog from me and hasn't spoken to me since.
WHATEVER!!
Ms SunnShinne
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UR FMIL needs to sit down! How dare she! I mean damn. UR FH needs to sit and talk to her and found out her true reasons. It isnt like ur a SNOTTY 14 year old stealing away her 9 year old son! u two are grown! she's a lonely lady and needs to go sit in the corner and think about her actions!
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wow. where to start... first of all, tell your FH that if his mother isnt contributing anything to the wedding, there's no reason for her to even be invited because the wedding is a place for people to give their blessings to the couple, not to curse them under their breath...
number two, since there is obviously no reasoning with this beast, FH needs to sit down and explain to his mother that the only BlTCH in this picture is her, not you... i cant even believe that someone who is a mother of a grown man can call someone who her son loves with all of his heart a name like that.
number three... i agree with the other girls... it could be jealousy... his mother was number one in his life for how long? and now theres a new number one lady, and she's not okay with that... soi guess she never wants her son to grow up and be happy, because i know i would KILL myself if i lived under my parents wing for the rest of my life.
and lastly, you did NOTHING wrong as far as i can tell... if she doesnt like you, its her issue, not yours. She's eventually gonna have to grow up and throw the grudge away. It's unfortunate that she just cant be happy for her son. i hope he wasnt raised to be like her, cuz that would be a damn shame.
i'm disgusted by your FMIL's actions, and I wish there was something i could do... like knock her out. lol good luck sweetie <333
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Wowwwww I'm so sorry to hear thid but, FH needs to have a talk with her very soon because she sounds like a jealous trouble maker. She doesn' t have a good heart because she is wishing bad on you (i wish the wedding blows up in her face). Your FH should explain to her that you are the woman in his life now and forever and she needs to accept you and respect you and if she doesn't than she doesn't respect him because you and him are now becoming one. She needs to give FH a reason why she is so nasty and says mean things and if she cant find a reason it is only jealousy and that is something she needs to work out with her son. Try not to let it upset you... I've learned a long time ago that there is a lot more people that will be jealous of you than be happy for you anytime you want to do something positive but, be better than her and dont stoop to her level because you need to be above that. This day is not about her it's about you!!!!
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Posted by Jayla127
Dog explanation: I have (2) shih tzu's that I breeded. FMIL went and promised her girlfriend a dog without tellng me at my expense. FMIL says to me, 'My girlfriend wants a dog and I told her I would get her one from you. And, Oh, yes I'm not paying you for it. She never got the dog from me and hasn't spoken to me since.
WHATEVER!!
Oh yeah and has she lost her mind volunteering YOUR dogs for FREE...... She could not have been serious, it had to have been a joke
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Wow your FMIL have serious issue and I agree with the other girls you have to tell FH to talk to her b/c guys don't like to disagree or make mad 'their mommy' (believe me I have experience) but he have to do it. I am going to tell you something that my friend always tell me, in a relationship the only people that matter is you and your FH everyone else is second. At the same time try to solve the things w/ her b/ you dont want to put through his entire life between the knife and the wall. Good luck
WoW ... I cant believe that ... You dont need that added stress MIL's can be soo difficukt sometimes!! but I would try not to worry if she was coming to the wedding or not right now because you have 2 years for that ... who knows theres a chance she might come and appologize to you or she might say herself that she doesnt want to attend the wedding .. or maybe she'll be out of the picture in 2 years who knows what will happen so I say I would not add stress to you life with that decision as of now, wait till 5 months before the wedding to see how the crazy b!tch is acting!!
DonnaPWhite1124
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that is serious bullcrap. MIL needs to grow up! Honestly, I think you should nip this in the butt asap because if you dont, shes going to be a terror for you-she needs to stop with the bullsh*t.
my friend had a similar prob with her MIL. Her MIL bought my friends husband tix to florida and NEVER told my friend.it was supposed to be a surprise for Luis(my friends husband) and Jen(my friend) was NEVER included-mind you after being married 2 years! Jen called up her MIL and yelled at her. From what I know now, after that MIL never pulled off any stunts.
MILs are crafty....and believe me they talk sh*t too..I would call her and see what the deal is. Try to resolve it, if she doesnt want to hear it, then you know what to do from there. Its your call.
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I am so sorry to hear that. My FMIL is not great either! I have commented on here before about her. She thinks she can say what she wants all the time.
Examples:
'What happened to your face it used to be pretty now you have acne'
'You and Alex (fh) need to go on a diet'
'If you dont want to cook and clean for my son he will find a Greek Girl to do it for him (FH is greek)'
Those are just examples of the craziness.
Luckily she moved to Greece a year ago and have seen her once since but when she was in town she was just horrible. After she left she wrote my FH this email about me and I read it and then I wrote her one and put her in her place and she has not said anything crazy yet. Only time will tell.
meli722
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I am so sorry to hear that. My FMIL is not great either! I have commented on here before about her. She thinks she can say what she wants all the time.
Examples:
'What happened to your face it used to be pretty now you have acne'
'You and Alex (fh) need to go on a diet'
'If you dont want to cook and clean for my son he will find a Greek Girl to do it for him (FH is greek)'
Those are just examples of the craziness.
Luckily she moved to Greece a year ago and have seen her once since but when she was in town she was just horrible. After she left she wrote my FH this email about me and I read it and then I wrote her one and put her in her place and she has not said anything crazy yet. Only time will tell.
Oh i can relate to the comments like this as well..i just ignore them......once she was mad when our washing machine was broke and i sent FH to do not even one load it was like half a load of laundry down the street because i was home sick!! she felt i shouldnt have sent him to do anything....she also gets mad if i go somewhere and have packages or bags of groceries in the car and dont have a push cart and call FH downstairs to help me with them, she feels i should do it all by myself, and with my daughter & a stroller on top of that. So i def. can relate to the comments but i just ignore them and try to stay away from her as much as possible. i have little contact with her and i keep it that way. She lives 4 blocks away and doesnt ever come to visit my daughter, so i never bring my daughter by to her house.
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Posted by Jayla127
Dog explanation: I have (2) shih tzu's that I breeded. FMIL went and promised her girlfriend a dog without tellng me at my expense. FMIL says to me, 'My girlfriend wants a dog and I told her I would get her one from you. And, Oh, yes I'm not paying you for it. She never got the dog from me and hasn't spoken to me since.
WHATEVER!!
Oh yeah and has she lost her mind volunteering YOUR dogs for FREE...... She could not have been serious, it had to have been a joke
yeah that whole dog thing is crazy.....what nerve....my MIL has said some crazy things to me as well and i just laugh in her face because its so freakin ridiculous...i wouldnt not invite yours to the weding though, because that is his mother forever.......but i would stay away from her as much as possible.
