NWR: FMIL kinda long!!

FH's parents are divorced... his dad is still supporting FMIL... She is so far gone with the alcoholism, that she cant hold a job...

they have been trying to sell their house for over a year... they finally have a buyer and its been taking a long time for the buyer to finally get approved and blah blah... so we started looking at apts for her... we went to a building by us and FMIL got too drunk and never dropped off the deposit (OR SO WE THOUGHT)... we just found out that the buyer was appoved and they are closing in like 2 or 3 weeks... so FH went back to the bld to try and get FMIL the apartment... apparently FMIL threatened one of the workers at the building... she showed up drunk and threatened to KILL HIM!!! so now they are giving FH a really hard time about giving her an apt...

***???? who does that...

we cant get an apartment for her in someones house... that could be a serious nighmare...

no one can afford to put her in some sort of rehab place... no one wants her to stay with them... i think she should stay with one of her aunts, who is exactly like her excpet at 80something she is much nicer and functioning alcoholic than FMIL....

i would start looking somewhere else if possible. it might be hard to get into a place where she threatened someone.

good luck hun!!!

a friend of mine is going through something similar with her dad...
I tried helping her look for places to put him, but she's nervous he'll lose the house he and his sister own. right now he IS working, he just drinks at night... but he has health problems.

anyway... I know there's a few places that are gov't funded and you don't have to pay that much (if anything). There was one out in port jeff, but I don't know the name. I can't ask my friend either, she's away on business and I won't hear from her for 2 weeks (boo).

I'm sorry you're going through this.

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Posted by little j

i would start looking somewhere else if possible. it might be hard to get into a place where she threatened someone.

good luck hun!!!

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ita

im so sorry mama

ugh.. what a stinky situation. If I think of any places I'll let you know.

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Posted by little j

i would start looking somewhere else if possible. it might be hard to get into a place where she threatened someone.

good luck hun!!!

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i agree, good luck

Aww, I'm sorry you're going through that

There may be resources out there for a rehabilitation facility; surely there are ones that are government-funded, right? Does she have health insurance? Sometimes health insurance will cover some of the cost, since alcoholism is a disease.

I'd start looking elsewhere for an apartment for her...definitely more of a building situation, you know? It'll be really hard to convince the first building to let her live there after she caused a scene.

Sorry again

Eventhough she and FFIL are divorced she is still covered under his insurance... but I dont know what kind of coverage he has for her... i dont know any of the terms of their divorce...

i just want it to end...they make us soo miserable

thanks girls

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Posted by AngnShaun

Eventhough she and FFIL are divorced she is still covered under his insurance... but I dont know what kind of coverage he has for her... i dont know any of the terms of their divorce...

i just want it to end...they make us soo miserable

thanks girls

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just wanted to add that even if she has FFIL's insurance, she still could qualify for a second level of coverage. that is good especially if FFIL's coverage is cr@ppy!

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Posted by cateydee

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Posted by AngnShaun

Eventhough she and FFIL are divorced she is still covered under his insurance... but I dont know what kind of coverage he has for her... i dont know any of the terms of their divorce...

i just want it to end...they make us soo miserable

thanks girls

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just wanted to add that even if she has FFIL's insurance, she still could qualify for a second level of coverage. that is good especially if FFIL's coverage is cr@ppy!

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thanks Catey, i text FH to call me to tell him... we'll see....

oh my! difficult situation...i hope your fh manages to convince the people in that building to give her the apartment afterall

Yikes!! I really don't have any advice, just wanted to give you hugs for dealing with this- I can't imagine how I would deal!!!

omg. its gonna be reealllllly difficult to get her approved to get into that building after what she said...

Ughh...so sorry you guys have to go through that!

that is so hard to deal with

Most alcoholics (my father included) would rather die from the disease than to get treatment. The hardest thing is, is the your FH will never really get to the live and live stage. He will always try to help his mother (or at least want to). Most people can't be helped unless they are willing to get help.

I am so sorry. It's an awful situation. I grew up in it. ***** and extremely embarrassing. Just listen to him and be supportive to your FH. That's all you can do.

I'm so sorry you have to go through this!

Good luck with it all and I wish I could help!