NWR: FMIL vent.......

So this week has been a pretty rough week for me. My mom found out the she has cancer and was admitted to the hospital on Wed and had surgery on Friday. She has to stay in hospital for another week. As you can imagine I have been a reck all week and the holidays haven't been much to celebrate. Well FH family was came into town on Friday eve and is staying at our house. They all new my mom was in the hospital and not one person even asked how she was until I was speaking to me FH about her (which was about 3 hours after they arrived). I was really mad. Since they have gotten here all the do is lay around the house and haven't helped me do anything.
My FH daughter is 6 and we had her today to celebrate Christmas. I did my best and tried to put on a happy face. Ever couple of minutes FMIL kept asking me what is wrong with you. Which just kept making me so mad. what do you think is wrong with me? HELLO my mom has cancer and is in a hospital. After that point all I could is and continued to do so all day. So around 2:30 I am getting ready to leave the house and go see my mom at the hospital when I hear FMIL say that she is going to FSIL house. I was planning on a big dinner since FH daughter was with us for Christmas eve. So I confirmed with FMIL that they would be back for dinner. I even went as far as asking what time would be convenient for them. She decided between 7 & 7:30. It is now after 9 and they are still not here and dinner is ruined. I left the hospital early just to make sure dinner was ready on time and they didn't even bother to show up. I am so hurt and so mad. I am sorry for the vent on Christmas Eve, but I just needed to get it all out.


Happy Holidays to All!!!!

Georgia
I am so sorry that that happened to you.

That is totally inconsiderate and inexcusable behavior. Some people just have NO concept of what is the 'right thing to do or say' and it often boggles my mind!

If and when they arrive i would very politely tell them that dinner was ready at 7:15 (since she said 7/730) and that it is now cold and packaged away in the fridge, but , she is more than welcome to leftovers. The End

DO NOT GO OUT OF YOUR WAY FOR THEM, they obviously do not return the courtesy.

Sorry

i hope things get better

I am so sorry. I understand how it feels to have something like this happen around the holidays. The last thing you need is inconsiderate people around making things more difficult for you. Some people think that everything revolves around them. I really hope that your mom gets well soon. My prayers are with her

FIrst, I am so sorry about your mom.

Next, I think it is totally wrong what your FMIL did. Having no consideration for anyone else will get you no where in life. What a biotch!!!!!

I am sorry that you are going thru all of this.
Im sorry about your mom
And I agree that your FMIL was completely inconsiderate, unfortunately there are people who dont care about other people

I'm sorry, but your FMIL, sounds soo callus, and disrespectful to your efforts and feelings. I mean for gods sake, your mother is in the hospital battling cancer on Christmas! You would think she'd show a bit of comfort and concern. After the holiday, I would tell her where to go, AND stay!!! And it wouldn't be at your house anytime soon either. I hope the best for your mother, and hope she's doing well. Merry Christmas anyway

Georgia...you have way too much going on right now....lots of stress. I am going to make a suggestion....everyone has something to do and they can all take care of themselves......
my suggestion is to the hospital and spend time with Mom, alone.....so that you can feel at ease and keep her company. She needs you right now. And you need her, too! She'll be really glad you are there....all this other stuff is nonsense.
Your Mom needs you right now more than anyone else does.

i'm glad FH did that!! they don't deserve to stay with you. heres some for your mom.

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Posted by tricia3381

i'm glad FH did that!! they don't deserve to stay with you. heres some for your mom.

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I agree. I'm glad your FH took care of them. It sounds as if they disrespected your household the moment they stepped in.

no! Please do not cancel your wedding! You must have a wedding.

Listen.....I went through a very similar scenario. You cannot give in to other people's disgusting actions.

Life will be FILLED with annoyin situations like this...you cannot cancel your plans b/c of them. Otherwise, you'd be just living a life of dissappointments and cancellations.

THis wedding is for you and your FH. Plus, how would YOUR PARENTS feel if you canceled the wedding? They would prob. be so hurt....
the wedding must go on!!!!!