I don't even know why I'm telling everyone this BUT I feel really depressed..... I'm fighting w/ fh (well more like not talking to him) because of bs fmil issues that seem to be un-resolvable. (i wrote about what happened in another post) I feel like I really have no one to plan my wedding w/ or ask for advice (fh doesn't seem to care much, moh is in Spain, bm #1 lives in FL, bm #2 just seems to not want to be bothered, and i don't want to bother bm #3 w/ everything) My whole family is upset about everything mom's upset because she wanted to buy me dress and she can't afford it, I told her I don't care but this seems to upset her very much. Can't talk about ANYTHING w/ fmil because she uses it against me. I'm 'in between' jobs.... and broke.... I can't even afford to get my hair cut.... I am about to cut it myself!! I am having trouble losing weight... I know I'm having a pity party, but i just feel so sad, I thought this was supposed to be a happy time?
july06bride
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i think everyone goes through a time where they are a bit crazy, too much going on, $$$ becomes an issue for many of us and so do our parents, in laws, even our fh's i am sure, so try to keep your head up and know that things can only get better...and share your info with us! we love to talk weddings. fm me anytime!
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aww keep your chin up, sometimes it seems that things are a mess, but you have to work on each one individually and find solutions. Your mom shouldn't be upset about not being able to afford a dresss. Tell her just her help in planning and her being there means something to you. I wish I coulld give you more advice, but all i can say is maybe go for a walk or something to get your mind off of things, get a clear head and when you do tackle an issue and try to come up with a solution. Sure we'd all like to think this is supposed to be the best time of our lives, but I know we all have little stigmas that we have to deal with, after all its still life.
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Planning a wedding is extremely stressful. There are times I feel so stressed and sad. I also say the same thing, how this should be one of the happiest times in my life.
It's hard unfortunately that is life. But, you have to take things one day at a time. Or you will drive yourself crazy. We are all here for you.
It will all work out. That's what I always tell myself. If you need a friend I will be happy to listen. Michelle
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Awww, sweetie. Keep your head up hun!! It will get better. And besides, you have us to vent and talk to!!!! Only bride-to be's and brides can really truely relate to the stresses of planning a wedding. If ya need someone to talk or vent to FM me!!
gNi1125
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I know it feels like stuff piles up sometimes, but there's a rainbow after every rainshower. Things will get better.
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I know it's hard right now, but it happens to all of us. Wedding planning can be very stressful - sometimes I feel it's more like navigating a mine field of sensitive people, all of whom have an opinion, rather than planning a joyous occasion. And the money stresses just make the whole process more difficult. But we're here if you need us... and we understand better than anyone else.
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can i join your pity party? believe me i know exactly how you feel.... i feel like calling the whole stupid thing off... you see that? i am calling my own wedding stupid! but that is the way it feels when no one is happy, fh an i are fighting, and we have no money to pay for the darn thing anyway... to top it all off i have to study for the stupid boards too!
vent all you want! we are hear to listen!
LaurenluvsTJ
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Everything will get resolved... we all have time when we feel completely overwhelmed... Just take a deep breath and remember despite all the other issues, you are marrying FH, and thats really all that matters.
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I can relate....FH and I have not fought until we started planning this wedding!!! And it seems like everyone and their mother has an opinion!!
Let your mother know that any help she can give in any fashion is appreciated. Some people don't even have their mothers around to offer.
As for losing weight, I'm in the same boat, so I hear ya completely. But here's the kicker....exercise relieves stress. So walk around the area next time you feel overwhelmed. It does help.
As for your FMIL, remember that you cannot control everyone, only yourself and how you handle the situation.
As for no one to talk to about weddings, we're all here!!! I feel like I don't have my family or friends to really talk to about this either because they're all going through their own major issues right now, and I have found this board to be sort of my own little circle of friends I can throw ideas off of!! Everyone has been amazing on this board, and we are all here to help you in any way we can!!!
As for the job situation, I am the QUEEN of job searches. Let me know if I can help you, it's one thing I am the best at!!!
esb980
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Thank you girls!!!
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stephanief
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I'm so sorry you are going through this. I think it is a good idea to clear your mind, go to the beach or read a good book. anything to take your mind off the wedding planning. Luckil, my family has been super supportive. My sister even went to the food tasting at my reception hall since I live in NC. Good luck and keep your head up
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Lots of to you. I hope that you and FI are able to work through the problems you are having.
