ALL of FH and my friends are already married, and MOST have babies already...EVERY time we hang out with them, I sit there with absolutely nothing to contribute to the conversation because ALL they talk about, understandibly, are their children! And when I try to contribute, they treat you as if ' What do you know, you don't have any kids'...or they say 'you will see what it is like' I end up hanging with the guys...
Furthermore, nobody ever asks how I am doing, or about the wedding planning. NOT that that is all I want to talk about either! Thank gawd for you girls!!
cateydee
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aww that really sux. your friends should be a little more in tune to whats going on in your life. we only have like 2 friends that have kids but they are not completely child-focused. maybe you can talk to them individually?
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Aww that stinks. I hope that I never turn into one of those people who talks constantly of their kid. I probably will though. LOL! I'm not like that about the wedding, but I expend great effort.
Mrs Z To Be
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Posted by cateydee
aww that really sux. your friends should be a little more in tune to whats going on in your life. we only have like 2 friends that have kids but they are not completely child-focused. maybe you can talk to them individually?
My SIL and and FSIL do not do this either. They are able to conversate about other things besids their children.
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I got a little bit mad at u for writing that u feel unimportant, eventho u did use the ' thingy
It's totally understandable that ppl will talk mostly about whats going on in their lives, ur friends do need to be a bit more considerate that u are not in the situation yet, but it is what it. I say enjoy right now hanging out with the guys, cause soon u gonna be boring like ur friends talking about THE BABY
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that is kinda inconsiderate of them. You should talk to them and let them know it btohers you. They might not even realize that they are doing it.
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I got a little bit mad at u for writing that u feel unimportant, eventho u did use the ' thingy
It's totally understandable that ppl will talk mostly about whats going on in their lives, ur friends do need to be a bit more considerate that u are not in the situation yet, but it is what it. I say enjoy right now hanging out with the guys, cause soon u gonna be boring like ur friends talking about THE BABY
Don't be mad at em Reg.
little j
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thats why we are here!!!
Clover23
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I have the exact same problem. And it drives me bananas.
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I feel like I'm the last one to get married to but to engage friends that are pregnant and have babies I usually ask them who they used for vendors, how it was for their wedding, etc. and it ends up turning into wedding conversation and no baby conversation! I try to make it more about their experiences and then its less like I'm trying to hog the conversation with my wedding woes!
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In our group of friends they all either have kids or are prego right now... its hard. I feel like I finally go to the wedding part and I would be able to talk about that, but they have moved on to the next level of babies. they still ask some quesions, but its not the way it was when the 2 before me got married. I know they still care, but I know we all feel like we want to shine when our time comes... I bet they all wish they were doing it all over since it was so much fun
