NWR: My Medical Update... (MAJOR VENT!)

Hi Girls,

So many of you were kind enough to FM notes of encouragement and support, so I wanted to let you know what's going on with me.

Well all the test results are in finally. FYI Oxford members (they suck!, FM me for more details)
Anyhoo..

So yesterday I had my last test, endoscopy, and it was horrid, they are suppose to put you to sleep for it but couldn't due to the fact that 'people who have no neck' (hello, I have one!) are at risk for airway collapse, so I was awake and aware of what they were saying the hold time. Some of you know I had gastric bypass a few years ago, well it turns out it was done incorrectly and now it basically looks like I didn't even have one, the staple lines are all gone, and I have scar tissue to boot.
(Note to the lawyers in our group what recourse do I have if my previous surgeon retired, and I have no way to contact him??)

SO now instead of just having hernia surgery (this is what started all of the tests) and a tummy tuck, recommended for those with my type of hernia, it speeds the healing process and lessens the chance of re-occurance. I know have to have a revision of my orginal surgery, which means no tummy tuck now, because they expect me to lose another drastic amount of weight (est 100-150lbs) and after losing that amount of weight I would need another one, so this having one now would be considered useless.

I am totally upset about all of this, mainly because it looks like I will probably have to change my wedding date again!

But the second part of my vent is this. In talking with FH about all of this, I said to him, that I would like us to still move in together next summer as we planned, he see's this as an opportunity for us to save more money (especially for him to pay off his credit debit) so I said to him, I could accept if he wanted to stay living at home, since he can't accept me supporting him, while he pays off his debt. But that I still feel the need to move. I am 32 year's old, and both my siblings live on their own and I make more money than them. I feel that if I save all the money needed to finish paying our wedding vendors, with the exception of the two he is paying for, then I feel I could handle living on my own. He is totally against this. His reason's ... are not even clear to me.. we just kept going in circles.. it was so fustrating to me!!!
How do I make him understand?

Thanks for letting me vent and for taking the time to read this.

Right now I am just so down in the dumps, and the one person I need to support me, is not really doing the greatest job at the moment..