Ladies, I need your help ... something.
My family adopted an abused german shepherd mix at the age of 2 or 3 in 2000 from the ASPCA and he's been with us ever since. However, he has terrible separation anxiety, which has only increased in his old age and since I moved out. He needs to be around people or other dogs and my family can't do either (small house + full-time jobs). My mom called me last night to inform me that taking care of him has become too much for her. Despite being walked at least five times a day, he still goes in the house multiple times (and locations) a day and has started tearing up everything he encounters. He has ruined all of the furniture, floors, doors, anything he can get near. He tears up the garbage and eats everything he can reach. She wants to bring him to Bideawee tomorrow because she just can't handle him anymore and can't give him the care he needs.
I'm so devastated. I am so attached to my dog but I am unable to take him in because our apartment does not allow us to have pets. I don't know what to do, and I am so angry and guilt ridden about this that I'm not speaking to my mother. My dog and I were best buddies when I lived at home and I'm heartbroken that my mom is going to give him up, but I realize I have no say in what she does because I'm not at home anymore and he is not my responsibility. She just can't do it anymore.
Is Bideawee a good place to bring a dog? I know they are a no-kill but I don't know much else about them. Is there anywhere you would recommend bringing a dog? Or ... is there anywhere you know of to bring troubled dogs? Maybe someone willing to adopt my baby?
I cried the whole time I was writing this, I am such a mess today and I don't know what to do.
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UPDATE!!!
Girls!
My mom just wrote me an e-mail telling me she changed her mind, she just can't do it. I am THRILLED. We are going to take him to the vet, make sure nothing is wrong with him physically, and see about putting him on some sort of anti-anxiety medication to see if it helps. I've offered to pay for everything because I am so grateful I got my mother to change her mind.
I have cried so much in the past two days and racked my brains and thought of endless plans and possibilities to make her change her mind ... and it worked. Thank you for all the hugs, prayers and helpful ideas, but most of all, for listening. I didn't tell anyone 'in real life' because I was so humiliated and depressed, so it's wonderful to know you were all here for me.
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Keep praying that we can get to the bottom of whatever is wrong with him and have him for the rest of his days.
