Ok -- my FH and I live up state and last weekend we invited his family up here for a barbq and b-day party for our daughter- his parents, brother and other brother and sister in law were here. I was outside with our daughter in the pool his parents were out side with us and fh and brother went for a ride (to show them the area up here- long storey short- my fsil was in my house by herself --I did not know I thought she went with them-- ( I told everyone that my cats were in my bed room keep door shut) I came in later and one of my cats was out- I now as I going over stuff one of my folders is all out of sorts--- I know how I leave things and to think she was snooping around-- as a guest that is just wrong-- now do I say anything or just let it go?????
Sorry so long!!
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You can't say anything. Maybe FH can, but you will start a huge family fight. I would say for the sake of peace, let it go, so long as nothing is missing. It was wrong though and I would keep a closer eye on her next time.
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I def dont want to start anything- but I just feel violated- I would never think of going through anyone stuff- I still wont even go in my fh wallet to get money out---
i just dont think i will leave her alone ever again-- if they come up again.
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I would be offended if i found out some one was snopping through my things! I would deffinatly not say something at this point.. unless you feel that FH will not go back to his family and say something. Just next time.. keep a close eye. But she is going to be 'family' so I am sure she will visit again.
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it was my wedding stuff that had been gone through all my contract we a miss and i found my rh contract in with my bills to be paid file- so i know something was wrong-
i was very pissed and i did tell fh and he said i caugh her in our room but she said she was only in there to use bathroom cause someone was in the other one- ( we have a ranch house)
i was like WHAT!!!!
so i know she was in here my fmil has never been in here or my parents unless it was with me so that leave just her or maybe my super spy cats did it while they were locked up just to get back at me!!!!!
Kimbalina
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yea, that would annoy me too! but what would she want to know that she couldnt ask!!! Geez!
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UGH that stinks. Was there information about how much you are paying in the folder???? If so, that could be what she was snooping for ... and if so, that's terrible. I would feel VERY violated! But if you accuse her, I am sure she would deny it and like everyone said, you'll have a fight on your hands.
Sorry hon!
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UGH that stinks. Was there information about how much you are paying in the folder???? If so, that could be what she was snooping for ... and if so, that's terrible. I would feel VERY violated! But if you accuse her, I am sure she would deny it and like everyone said, you'll have a fight on your hands.
Sorry hon!
Thats what I was thinking, that she was in there snooping to see how much you paid. She doesnt sound like a very good snoop though, i mean i would have at least put everything back the way it was.
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UGH.....why would she snoop..that is soo annoying and rude! I like the others don't think you should say anything but df. keep an eye on her when she omes up the next time.
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Thats what I was thinking, that she was in there snooping to see how much you paid. She doesnt sound like a very good snoop though, i mean i would have at least put everything back the way it was.
deb08
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oh i would have just told her- you see they got married last year and well- she put it all together in 6 months and i have heard that she is not happy with how the day went-- not my fault-- we have been planning for over and year and i am getting what i want not what everyone elses wants (which is what she did and regerts now)
but yea just ask me i would have told her---
i asked her to be in BP but she neven said yes or no just never got back to me on any thing so when the girls and i went and got there dress she was left out!!!! oh well her loss !!!
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Odd I would feel very uncomfortable if someone went snooping through my things, different story if I told her it was okay to look at my wedding stuff but it doesnt seem like you both are on that level of closeness where you would be okay with this. I would approach her especially since fh caught her in that room.
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Posted by JBoothIn2008
UGH that stinks. Was there information about how much you are paying in the folder???? If so, that could be what she was snooping for ... and if so, that's terrible. I would feel VERY violated! But if you accuse her, I am sure she would deny it and like everyone said, you'll have a fight on your hands.
Sorry hon!
Thats what I was thinking, that she was in there snooping to see how much you paid. She doesnt sound like a very good snoop though, i mean i would have at least put everything back the way it was.
that's what I think too -- she wants to know how much you're spending without outright asking you. It's very childish -- at least now you know that she will be sneaky about certain things
deb08
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Oh there is no closeness with us- I kind of really don't get along with her- she is and has been very difficult for day one of her dating fbil- she is very well down right rude with come comments she has made and has more than one occasion said that we are cheap!!!! as if-- I wish we were I would have a lot more money
we gave them 500 for a wedding gift plus my fh was best man and laid out money for all that stuff and I went and spent over 200 on her shower gift and my daughter was fg and that was more we laid out and she just about said we were cheap for only giving them 500
