Out with some friends talking about wedding stuff (a friend of mine just got engaged as well) and a friend of a friend made a comment that people who get $$$ from their parents are spoiled. When I asked her why she made this comment, she said that they aren't living as adult life. They still have Mommy and Daddy paying for them. That its better when the FH and you do it all on your own. I told her that my FIL's are helping with some of the process but FH and I are putting together as well. That she shouldnt make general statements like that. I left her alone and didnt take the conversation any further, I knew we would get into an argument. I think at the time she just didnt want us talking about wedding things anymore. Which is fine, but no need to make comments to offend anyone. What do you think?
tonimike
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Posted by bella11
Posted by Dom n Nic
OK- her saying it is better to pay for it yourself is true for the simple fact it's your money and you spend it on the things you want. when people arepaying they can and are going to give their 2 cents.
me personally I think this girl is jealous because you have family helping you and she may not she prob feels why is she paying for her wedding herself and everyone gets help ..
on the other hand dh and i paid for our OWN wedding. A lot and i mean a lot of money went into it . our parents did help us with little things and we took their offer lol .
, they helped with little things????? Nic...you got your entire apt furnished, a VERY generous gift from both set of parents and even more after the wedding....The amount they spent on you and Dom is more than some parents contribute towards weddings....
Go feed LMNOP!!!!!
LuckySevens
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I think people like that are just jealous and you should try to ignore people like that. It is annoying, I understand. Personally, I think it is incredibly generous and greatly appreciated when parents kick in. Those of us who have that are fortunate but people shouldnt make such ridiculous comments, I agree.
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Posted by tonimike
Posted by bella11
Posted by Dom n Nic
OK- her saying it is better to pay for it yourself is true for the simple fact it's your money and you spend it on the things you want. when people arepaying they can and are going to give their 2 cents.
me personally I think this girl is jealous because you have family helping you and she may not she prob feels why is she paying for her wedding herself and everyone gets help ..
on the other hand dh and i paid for our OWN wedding. A lot and i mean a lot of money went into it . our parents did help us with little things and we took their offer lol .
, they helped with little things????? Nic...you got your entire apt furnished, a VERY generous gift from both set of parents and even more after the wedding....The amount they spent on you and Dom is more than some parents contribute towards weddings....
Go feed LMNOP!!!!!
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Thats crazy. I am not getting the help but I think there is nothing wrong if the parents help out.
I agree
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Posted by enjft
Thats crazy. I am not getting the help but I think there is nothing wrong if the parents help out.
I agree
Ditto!
dancerandchef
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That is so crazy for her to say. At the moment my FH and I are paying for our wedding. If my mom and his parents are willing to help out that is fine with us.
Is your friend married? I wonder if her parents will help her out for her wedding and how she will react?
Don't worry about it. It's your and you FH's wedding. You can do anything anyway you want. I wishes special wishes on your wedding.
dancer
PegaLega
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Call me spoiled then!!!
I work my @$$ off to pay my bills-rent, electric, cable, car insurance, gas in the cars....etc. all that normal bill stuff.
Both sides are helping us and we are paying too! I am also looking to buy ahouse....so I guess it makes me spoiled that both of our parents want us to have SOME kind of responsibility but would also like us to be able to take a step up in life and help us out without us spending our savings on a house! We appreciate it completely! We both have big families, and NO we couldnt have everyone there that we would like to have there if we didnt get the help. Its not like they are THROWING money at us-thats not what parents do when they are paying. No we arent going over board-my whole wedding will cost no more then 30K.....I dont think there is anything wrong with parents helping their children with their wedding. If there is-then I will be the first to step up and say I am in fact completely and utterly spoiled! But I know Im not and thats really all that matters!
BklynItaliana
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she should've gotten knocked on her arseeee..
who is she,where does she live????
bride2b24
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i think that is crazy....i dont hate on anyone who is getting their wedding paid for .....yes that is something very old skool and unfourtunately my rents cant afford it .but if they could i know they woulud do it in a heart beat adn i would appreciate it....all you girls who are getting your wedding paid for.....rock on! you deserve it
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I wish FH and I could pay for the whole thing ourselves but even if we could at this point my mom would want to give money in....I think that just as much as it is our day, our parents have been dreaming somewhat of this day too...whether happy or sad and I think helping to pay is a part of helping their dream come true too!! I think that saying it's not living an adult life is a very harsh statement! Not to sound mean but maybe she is jealous deep down of people who get money from their parents b/c she isn't...who knows...whatever the reason there is no need to be nasty about it!
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Sounds to me like you already know that this person is just playing a game. She is making comments to either piss you off, make herself feel better, or to get you to stop talking about weddings. If someone said something like that to me, I'd ask them, 'would you turn it down if your parents offered you money?' I mean, come on, how many people would? It's not whether your parents give you $$. It's whether you appreciate it.
bride_to_be_2007
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my parents are paying for my wedding and i dont belive i am spoiled. and to think of it this way...i have all intentions for paying for my childrens wedding as well. so essentailly we will be paying for it down the line....and the prices will be much more . its kind of like we will pay for it later in life when we will be better established....i always grew up with that mentatlity as well...brides parents pay. so i feel i have been greatly blessed and i will pass this on to my children one day.
lisaslove
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if your parents are paying for your wedding that soo does no make you spoiled. thats ridiculous
Mooshyboo
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That is crazzzzzzzy...I am not getting help financially from my side but my FH's parents have been quite generous...
I wish i was 'spoiled' a little bit - so it wouldnt be so stressful with the $$ stuff - but it will all work out!
That is awesome if someone's parents are paying for there wedding...If I had a child I would try to help as much as I can financially/emotionally!
rachel212
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We're not getting help, but TRUST ME, if they offered, I would jump all over that. She's soooo jealous, that's all.
lilred13
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I don't see anything wrong with getting help but at the same for me, someone who doesnt have a great relationship with my parents I am glad we are doing it ALL on our own
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I can't stand when people makes comments like that. Its rude and they are jealous and want you to feel bad about about it. We're getting help from both sides and we're still putting in a ton of money. We wouldn't be able to have had our wedding at the place we wanted if it wasn't for our parents help. I think if your parents are willing and can afford to help, thats awesome! & we appreciate it so much & hope we can do the same for our kids one day.
I do wish we could pay for everything on our own but these days are different... living on long island is hard enough without parents help...let alone pay for a wedding fully on top of it.
Mrs_C_in_'07
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She's probably pissed that she has to or had to pay for her own wedding and so therefore, she needs to put everyone else down who's getting help to make herself feel better. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but it sounds like she was nasty about it. So sad!
