NWR: work/life vent

I know I have vented previously about my job on here ... not as often as I'd like, because I'm fairly sure that you would get sick of reading the same post day after day. But yesterday one of the women I work with/for (fine line) implied that I wasn't doing my job correctly, and, whoops, I lost it and hung up on her.

I friggin hate my job, and I especially hate dealing with this one woman. It's a shame, because as a person I really like her, but as a colleague she makes me miserable. She puts herself on a pedestal and thinks she is infinitely smarter and better than I am, just because she has some letters after her name. She is constantly telling me ways she thinks I can improve on my job performance, though she has zero clue what I do all day long because she only works part-time. I'm so tired of working here, for people who severely underappreciate me.

If the economy wasn't so bad and I wasn't getting married in 2.5 months, I would have left ages ago, but I feel so trapped and miserable every day and I just can't take it anymore. I had a complete and total meltdown yesterday, between this and a host of other issues (including, but not limited to, health issues of my own and family members, BM drama earlier this week, horrible low self esteem and not being able to find anything decent to wear to my b party next weekend, some apartment issues that are wearing me down, etc.), and I just feel so incredibly sad and lost. FH is away for work this week and coming home tomorrow, so I just feel so isolated and miserable.

I spent all of last night laying in bed crying, and it $ucks. It $ucks because this is my time. I'm getting married to the love of my life in 71 days and I'm friggin miserable about every other aspect of my life. It's just unfair.

Sorry ... if you read this whole thing, I commend you, because I don't know if I could have made it through reading this glurge.

Can you take a personal day? Maybe you should take one the Friday before your B-party, have a great weekend, recharge your batteries...it might help to get you over this particular bad patch.

I hope you feel better! And your coworker will get whats coming to her...karma is a b!tch!

I would, but because of health issues I've taken two days off recently, and I'm saving up all of my vacation time for the year for my wedding ... so I can't really take another day off ...

Thanks for the suggestion, though ...

I am going through this also!!!!!! I feel sooo bad for you because I can honestly say I know what it feels like. The only difference is that I work with all dudes.

I am this close to filing a complaint....

Anyway, you know why she's trying to undermine you and make you feel like sh*T?

She is insecure about HERSELF. She brags and talks about all the great things SHE does. She has to say those things so she feels better, in reality, she probably has extreme insecurities and is threatened by others around her.

Hang in. I know it sux to hear that and I would love to walk right out the door and saw fawwwk you to my job, but we gotta just try to get thru this.

Awww…. I don’t have any words of wisdom but

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Posted by julesrbf

Thanks girls. I've decided to not return after the wedding. Hopefully I can find something else before then, but I can't go on this way and FH and I are financially stable enough right now that if I don't find something right away we should be OK ...

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I was going to suggest that. And by the way, is the person who gives you a hard time your boss? If not, you can tell her, FLAT OUT thats its not her place to tell you how to do your job.

At this point your not coming back and it will give her a clear message. I have told people (when I worked in retail) that they are not my boss and should not tell me how to do my job.

I feel SO bad for you. But Just take everything one day at a time and one problem at a time. Deal with one thing and the mountain of stuff to overcome will become a molehill.

Just hang in there. Besises...we ARE behind you. Im sending you amazing vibes today. Pick up on them and KNOW someone is thinkign about you and is in your corner. You are bEAUTIFUL and AMAZING.

Now, go kick some a$$ today and be the amazing person you are. Truck all them because you KNOW you do a good job and are DAM N good at it!

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Posted by julesrbf

Thanks girls. I've decided to not return after the wedding. Hopefully I can find something else before then, but I can't go on this way and FH and I are financially stable enough right now that if I don't find something right away we should be OK ...

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I am happy you are able to do this. Every job will have it's downfalls for sure, but to be this upset over it is not worth it. You WILL find something eles and you WILL be appreciated. Good luck with your search.

i think u r doing the right thing....u dont want to really dread going there every day..u need to b happy

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Posted by DonnaPWhite1124

I am going through this also!!!!!! I feel sooo bad for you because I can honestly say I know what it feels like. The only difference is that I work with all dudes.

I am this close to filing a complaint....

Anyway, you know why she's trying to undermine you and make you feel like sh*T?

She is insecure about HERSELF. She brags and talks about all the great things SHE does. She has to say those things so she feels better, in reality, she probably has extreme insecurities and is threatened by others around her.

Hang in. I know it sux to hear that and I would love to walk right out the door and saw fawwwk you to my job, but we gotta just try to get thru this.

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i concur with donna!! PLUS, she's probably really jealous that you are marrying the love of your life!! and she thinks by throwing her degrees is going to compensate her lack of personal fulfillment, and is trying to get the limelight back on herself!!

just EFF 'EM all, have a glass of wine tonight!

it'll get better!

And to boot, what doesnt kill you will make you stronger.

I tell people how much I hate work and I feel like a POS and keep thinking I messed things up and people dont like me etc. They just have a hard on for me (not literally lol) they just feel like targeting me alot.

But, in the long run, if and when I land my dream job, it will make dealing with BS so much easier.

wow.. i totally feel you!!!! I have this women @ work as well.. she is constantly pointing out my mistakes.acts like shes miss.know it all. and yeah lately I've been having a hard time concentrating at work because i am thinking about my wedding and what i have to do next. she has not asked me about my wedding, probably because shes divorced. But I love her outside of work, but when i work with her she makes it miserable for me.. it makes me sick to my stomach everyday. she tells me the wrong info to make me look like jerk infront of my boss.. last week i couldnt take it anymore and i told her i need to speak with her in the conference room. well that was last week.. well she was good until today... she was back to her old ways....

seriously why do we have to deal with this? I need to win lotto or find my calling in life lol i can only deal with this for so long....