OK after all that one question for all of you- Please help!

Rob-luvs-me Posted: Feb 05, 2004 03:54 PM

OK after all that one question for all of you- Please help!

OK after all of that we decided to do photo invites since they will only cost about 40$

Ok so here is the deal FH and I are throwing the rehearsal dinner - and we need help with the wording - should it read all the wording we find either implies someone else is hosting OR says that grooms or brides parents are hosting:

Christine L.
&
Robert G.
Request the pleasure of your company
at _________ rehearsal dinner
Friday, April 23, 2004
etc
etc
etc
etc

So should the blank say:
1) OUR; or
2) THEIR?

AliKing Posted: Feb 05, 2004 03:56 PM

Re: OK after all that one question for all of you- Please help!

I think 'their' sounds better

Rob-luvs-me Posted: Feb 05, 2004 03:58 PM

Re: OK after all that one question for all of you- Please help!

Ok that is what we thought BUT I spoke to my father (attorney) and a bunch of my english major friends and they say that it sounds (implies) that someone else is hosting if I use their? That is why we don't know what to do

MarcellaBella Posted: Feb 05, 2004 03:59 PM

Re: OK after all that one question for all of you- Please help!

'their' b/c you're doing it in the third party..

bethsiar Posted: Feb 05, 2004 04:02 PM

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I agree with marcella, I see what your saying about hosting, but if its sent from you and everything, I think they know you're hosting it.

september2004 Posted: Feb 05, 2004 04:04 PM

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i would make it OUR and less formal sounding - did you use the phrase 'Request the pleasure of your company' on your invite?

JMO

Rob-luvs-me Posted: Feb 05, 2004 04:06 PM

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my wedding invites are very formal - but we wanted more of a relaxed idea fun feel with the RD invites -

Lorena Posted: Feb 05, 2004 04:10 PM

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I don't think it implies that at all. I think the people requesting others' presence are the ones hosting. That's why people put 'Mr & Mrs X request the honor of your presence at the wedding of their daughter Jane X to...' when their parents are paying/hosting.

Did that make sense?

bridget&jimmy Posted: Feb 05, 2004 04:10 PM

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Verseit.com has cute sayings if you want it to be more fun.

Bridget

Lorena Posted: Feb 05, 2004 04:10 PM

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Posted by Rob-luvs-me

Ok that is what we thought BUT I spoke to my father (attorney) and a bunch of my english major friends and they say that it sounds (implies) that someone else is hosting if I use their? That is why we don't know what to do

Oops, meant to quote this and then type the response above, sorry.

Rob-luvs-me Posted: Feb 05, 2004 04:14 PM

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Thank you I think I will go with my first instinct and use their!

tourist Posted: Feb 05, 2004 04:20 PM

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ok, you sem to have picekd, but I agree.

Marcella is right, once you use your first names, you are spaking in the 3rd person, so you should stick with it & use their. It does sounds like someelse is issuing the invitation, but since its says 'bride & groom request.. .'
it is clear that you are throwing the party.

You just have 'your people' sending out the invites. . .

Miro127 Posted: Feb 05, 2004 05:49 PM

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definitely 'their' - 'our' doesnt make any sense.

Sunny Posted: Feb 05, 2004 05:52 PM

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You can't put the names and then say our, it is mixing up the sentence and doesn't make sense.

If you want to make it known you are hosting it, you should change the wording all together.

september2004 Posted: Feb 05, 2004 05:54 PM

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Posted by Sunny

You can't put the names and then say our, it is mixing up the sentence and doesn't make sense.

If you want to make it known you are hosting it, you should change the wording all together.

agree