So I recently got engaged and planning my wedding that I have dreaming of for years! My best friend who always made fun of me for wanting to get married so bad is starting to plan her wedding even though she's NOT engaged yet... She is considering the same venue and colors I have been talking about for 2 months before my wedding! I really am happy that she's with a guy that makes her want a wedding cause she never wanted one , but I feel like she's just trying to beat me to punch and its a little upsetting..
Am I being brat?
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KroertGS
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Seems like she's very jealous of you.
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Seems like she's very jealous of you.
Agree!!! Does she think she is getting engaged soon?
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Let her talk she's not even engaged...does seem like she is having a little wedding envy but I would just make a joke of it
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I can definitely understand your reaction but dont let it bother you she's not engaged yet sometimes people just get into the moment.
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Seems like she's very jealous of you.
Agree!!! Does she think she is getting engaged soon
Yes they're currently ring shopping
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People will think she's silly for copying you, since your wedding will be first. I wouldn't worry about it :)
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People will think she's silly for copying you, since your wedding will be first. I wouldn't worry about it :)
That's my issue hers would be first!! She quoted a day 2 months b4 mine
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People will think she's silly for copying you, since your wedding will be first. I wouldn't worry about it :)
That's my issue hers would be first!! She quoted a day 2 months b4 mine
I would be totally pissed.. Sounds like jealousy to me!
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Oy vey - don't worry about. Most likely the entire situation will change once she is engaged. I imagine her and her Future fiance will want to have the experience of hunting for venues together and all that fun stuff so who knows what direction shell take. Definitely don't stress over it. And I definitely don't think your being a brat!!!!!!!!!!!
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People will think she's silly for copying you, since your wedding will be first. I wouldn't worry about it :)
That's my issue hers would be first!! She quoted a day 2 months b4 mine
Oy...then I would start telling everyone I know the colors I picked so they would know I picked them first.
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She sounds like a *****. I would be annoyed if my friend did that to me
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I dealt with a similar situation. My friend got engaged a few years ago. I got engaged last summer and she knew that I wasn't planning on having a long engagement so she all of a sudden started planning her wedding. She said that she wanted to get married in the fall but as soon as I booked my date in July she booked hers in May and I know it is bc she wanted to get married first. I wouldn't even stress about it, but I do think it is ridiculous that she would choose the same venue and colors. What does she plan on using the same BM dresses as you too?
She sounds like a *****. I would be annoyed if my friend did that to me
This, I'd be pissed as **** if that happened! Well, if you have a lot of mutual friends who will be attending both and they already know where you're getting married, she'll seem really jealous and petty to everybody else. And she should realize that and want to venue shop and have her own special day with her own FH. Just wait and see what happens before getting too upset!
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if she's not even engaged yet and they are just ring shopping I wouldn't worry too much yet. my ex took me ring shopping, until the ring is on the finger doesn't matter lol. also I'd make comments to her like why would you want the same venue? don't you want your own? etc.
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Oy...then I would start telling everyone I know the colors I picked so they would know I picked them first.
I would do this too!!
And you're definitely NOT being a brat! She's probably just getting caught up in all the excitment of you getting married & going ring shopping. Since she's not engaged she obviously didn't start planning anything, so she only has you to go by. If she gets engaged soon (which who knows b/c my FH and I started looking at rigs about a year before we got engaged)she'll probably start making her own plans once she sees what's out there.
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Honey she's jealous. Focus on yourself, your relationship, and your big day. Don't let your friend ruin things for you. She's not even engaged yet, so go book your venue and date!
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Yeah she sounds like she is just jealous and having wedding envy don't let her get to you. But i would talk to her and be like why do you all of a sudden want to plan a wedding your not even engaged yet I thought you didn't want to get married just see what her reasoning behind it is.
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you cant call dibs on halls and colors if your not even engaged. you are actually planning yours while she is dreaming, dont even worry about it. go along with your planning cause you will obviously be the one getting married first.
its just like someone who is not pregnant trying to call dibs on a name...ooo well doesnt work that way
