Ok.. does anyone else have parents that they are kindof embarrassed of?
Please hear me out.. and dont think Im an awful person till you hear me out..LOL.. and this could be long, but I'll try to sum it up quicker.
Growing up, I just adored my dad. He was a big tough guy, drank too much, but I didnt know better. My mom was just kindof 'around'.
Ive always been suspicious of their lives because we moved alot.. I think my dad just always got into trouble ... fighting.
At about 16.. it all went downhill.
My mom was forever complaining about some ailment. she has had back surgery, hip surgery's 3 times in fact, tyrhoid cancer and goes to the doctor every chance she gets.
My dad was the local tough dude that most really liked. He partied with everyone... and again, drank too much and was overweight.
About 10 years ago, he beat up some guy that was hitting on me. '
The guy was going to sue him, so my father put everything he owned in my brothers name. 2 company's... 1 my brother was made half owner of.
My dad is very chauvenistic.. gave nothing to my sister and i... ever. We were GIRLS.. anyway...
In the last 15 years I'd say.. he has had several strokes. The last one.. he was left paralyzed. My brother then said he cant take it anymore and disolved the one company leaving my dad without a source of income.
My brother then offered to buy my dads shares of the other company.. which .. were supposed to be mine and my sisters.
My dad was left no choice but to sell for dirt cheap.
My sister had to take them into her home.. and the funny thing is.. with all the money my dad had, he never bought a house.. and has always snubbed the houses my sister and I bought. so now.. they are living there and he still calls our homes Pieces of Sh**.
My father then took off to Thailand with a buddy and lived there for several months , leaving my mom with my sister.
My dad even had some chicky there. ugh.
Moving foward, my mom and sister got into a fight , my mom called my dad and said to come back they are moving to Nevada.
My dad left Thailand... 2 days later ( still in Hawaii where we are from) his heart stopped. He was in ICU for 3 weeks. He ended up with a pacemaker.
They now live in Vegas in a senior complex. They are living off of my dads very small Social security and food stamps.
My mom is still cronically ill.. Not really, but she thinks she is. She LOOKS for things to worry about. Galls stones, colon issues, colds, bronchitis, her arthritis... it goes on and on.
My dad walks, but with a lot of difficulty. He refused to use a cane, therefore he falls a lot. This makes me very mad, because again, its always about him.. not considering how hard it is on everyone else.
He lost one of his fake teeth so he looks like a fricken pumpkin.
LOL.. I could go on and on!!!
My mom is the queen of guilt.
I have started a new life and am very happy. Im not working right now so I can be with my kids. My BF is supporting us. We live in a nice house with a pool and we go to dinners and shows.
My BF took me to the Bellagio for my B'day and to Elton John.
So of course my mom says' Wow.. how much did that cost'. Man.. I want to see Elton John before I die, but I guess that will never happen.
sigh...... things like that EVERY time we talk.
Ok.. so I went on a tagent didnt i??
The reason I asked the original question.. is because my BF's family was just here and my kids were meeting them all for the first time.
MY mom called and wanted to come to my house for dinner but I said we had plans... she was upset that I didnt want them to join us .
She told my sister that....
Im sorry!! But this was about me and my family... !!!! My mom also has a way of manipulating conversations with BORING stuff... Like talking about crap when she was 15 or something.. how cute and skinny she used to be..blah blah blah.
Ive become very cold hearted about all this... becuase Im just so disappointed. My dad who was my hero , turned out to be a zero. And my mom is now trying to rain on my life. Funny, you hear her version of how we grew up... its a lot different then what my sister and i remember.
Sooo.. there's my family story. Much more... but in a nut shell as to why Ive outgrown them and embarrassed.
I guess I just needed to get it out.
Growing up, I just adored my dad. He was a big tough guy, drank too much, but I didnt know better. My mom was just kindof 'around'.
Ive always been suspicious of their lives because we moved alot.. I think my dad just always got into trouble ... fighting.
At about 16.. it all went downhill.
My mom was forever complaining about some ailment. she has had back surgery, hip surgery's 3 times in fact, tyrhoid cancer and goes to the doctor every chance she gets.
My dad was the local tough dude that most really liked. He partied with everyone... and again, drank too much and was overweight.
About 10 years ago, he beat up some guy that was hitting on me. '
The guy was going to sue him, so my father put everything he owned in my brothers name. 2 company's... 1 my brother was made half owner of.
My dad is very chauvenistic.. gave nothing to my sister and i... ever. We were GIRLS.. anyway...
In the last 15 years I'd say.. he has had several strokes. The last one.. he was left paralyzed. My brother then said he cant take it anymore and disolved the one company leaving my dad without a source of income.
My brother then offered to buy my dads shares of the other company.. which .. were supposed to be mine and my sisters.
My dad was left no choice but to sell for dirt cheap.
My sister had to take them into her home.. and the funny thing is.. with all the money my dad had, he never bought a house.. and has always snubbed the houses my sister and I bought. so now.. they are living there and he still calls our homes Pieces of Sh**.
My father then took off to Thailand with a buddy and lived there for several months , leaving my mom with my sister.
My dad even had some chicky there. ugh.
Moving foward, my mom and sister got into a fight , my mom called my dad and said to come back they are moving to Nevada.
My dad left Thailand... 2 days later ( still in Hawaii where we are from) his heart stopped. He was in ICU for 3 weeks. He ended up with a pacemaker.
They now live in Vegas in a senior complex. They are living off of my dads very small Social security and food stamps.
My mom is still cronically ill.. Not really, but she thinks she is. She LOOKS for things to worry about. Galls stones, colon issues, colds, bronchitis, her arthritis... it goes on and on.
My dad walks, but with a lot of difficulty. He refused to use a cane, therefore he falls a lot. This makes me very mad, because again, its always about him.. not considering how hard it is on everyone else.
He lost one of his fake teeth so he looks like a fricken pumpkin.
LOL.. I could go on and on!!!
My mom is the queen of guilt.
I have started a new life and am very happy. Im not working right now so I can be with my kids. My BF is supporting us. We live in a nice house with a pool and we go to dinners and shows.
My BF took me to the Bellagio for my B'day and to Elton John.
So of course my mom says' Wow.. how much did that cost'. Man.. I want to see Elton John before I die, but I guess that will never happen.
sigh...... things like that EVERY time we talk.
Ok.. so I went on a tagent didnt i??
The reason I asked the original question.. is because my BF's family was just here and my kids were meeting them all for the first time.
MY mom called and wanted to come to my house for dinner but I said we had plans... she was upset that I didnt want them to join us .
She told my sister that....
Im sorry!! But this was about me and my family... !!!! My mom also has a way of manipulating conversations with BORING stuff... Like talking about crap when she was 15 or something.. how cute and skinny she used to be..blah blah blah.
Ive become very cold hearted about all this... becuase Im just so disappointed. My dad who was my hero , turned out to be a zero. And my mom is now trying to rain on my life. Funny, you hear her version of how we grew up... its a lot different then what my sister and i remember.
Sooo.. there's my family story. Much more... but in a nut shell as to why Ive outgrown them and embarrassed.
I guess I just needed to get it out.
