ok i need major help with my ceremony

ok so sorry in advance that this is so long, but im starting to get really confused

so fh and i are different religions-he's catholic and im just plain christian (my family goes to a church of christ)

so because of this, we decided to get married at our rh..bc his family is not religious at all, and mine is veryyyy religious-they literally would not come to my wedding if i had it in a catholic church, but neither fh or i are very religious.

so fast forward, and i found out yesterday that our officiant wont be able to marry us anymore, because he just left his wife, who is my mother's cousin (which i feel so bad about-they were married for thirty years!), but with such a religious family i have plenty of other people who can perform the actual ceremony.

however, when i was telling fmil last night, she made a comment about us getting married in a catholic church, to which i said no, and then she asked about my church-which in my opinion is ugly, but would be completely free. i never really wanted to do it there, but now im not so sure-i think they want us to just get married in any church, and i know it would make my family realllly happy. fh and i are indifferent.

as of now, we have in our contract that our ceremony will be at rh (they're charging us 500) and we will be able to have a rehearsal, but most likely a few nights before and it will be another 200..at my church we could do it the night before and it would be free

our ch starts at 12..

so what should i do? do you think my rh will let me change this? when would i have my ceremony start (the church is about 25 min away from rh)?

im lost

i would def call and ask....they may not give you teh money back but they may let you add something onto your package that will equal $500 dollars instead of doing the ceremony...won't hurt to ask

just make sure you and fh WANT to get married in a church...don't do it just to make other people happy!

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Posted by MrsC2010

i would def call and ask....they may not give you teh money back but they may let you add something onto your package that will equal $500 dollars instead of doing the ceremony...won't hurt to ask

just make sure you and fh WANT to get married in a church...don't do it just to make other people happy!

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the idea of wanting isnt a big deal--it sounds horrible but we don't really care where we do it..i just thought the rh was prettier and more convenient..but it wouldn't bother me to get married in the church--i like that idea too.. i have no clue what to doooo

i imagine you would just do the ceremony and not the full mass. i think a 10am or 1030am start time is fine. where were you thinking of taking pictures?

when you talk to the RH ask if the RH can be pushed back till 1pm. then you can do church at 11. i think that is a better start time to have people come.

good luck!!

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Posted by 20mrsc10

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Posted by MrsC2010

i would def call and ask....they may not give you teh money back but they may let you add something onto your package that will equal $500 dollars instead of doing the ceremony...won't hurt to ask

just make sure you and fh WANT to get married in a church...don't do it just to make other people happy!

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the idea of wanting isnt a big deal--it sounds horrible but we don't really care where we do it..i just thought the rh was prettier and more convenient..but it wouldn't bother me to get married in the church--i like that idea too.. i have no clue what to doooo

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before you decide or make any calls...maybe just go visit the church again this week and think -- is this where i see myself getting married? if you rather the RH, then do it there.

if it is a big deal with your parents and his parents, and you guys really dont care, i would opt on the side of making them happy...as long as you are happy too of course!!!

calling the rh and asking if they can push it back is a good idea--but since it's the day im pretty sure they have another party right after ours..

as for going to the church i used to go 3 times a weeks every week for years..lately i haven't gone as much, but i still go about once a month or so

It doesn't hurt to ask JT to let you out of it and from what I know about JT, they really work with you. I would def visit with the church again and see if there is anything you can do to improve the look a bit... if they allow it. Since its free, it may be worth it. And... if JT lets you out, you can def use that money to glam it up with flowers or something.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

its a really small church lol..i think we have 45 members and im the only one getting married..so availability is no issue

and i still dont know what to do

JT has two CH times: 12PM and 1PM. If there is already a wedding at the 1PM CH they won't be able to push it back for you.

Honestly, it might be easier to just stick to your original plan. Good luck!