ok i need to vent and need help.......

you need to talk to her and explain to her that although you would love for her kids to attend, you cant invite kids bc of cost bc it will cost you more obviously if you let everyone bring their kids and room in the RH, if you end up having alot of kids then you'll have more tables. Say that your families and friends theres a large amount of kids and that would be a bit much and you cant make exceptions bc you dont want to hurt anybodies feelings. For us too, if we would've allowed everyone to bring kids, we were looking at anywhere from 40-50 kids and then that just becomes too much. Hopefully she will understand this and you cant bend all the rules and pay more money and do something you dont want to do just bc she has a problem with it.

If you want to work things out with her and help, offer to help her with a babysitter, some get babysitters to stay at the hotel if guests are staying at a hotel.

As your friend, she should understand

If shes really that close to you, she'll understand.

If you have that problem with more than one person you can always hire a babysitter to stay a nearby hotel. Babysitters are pretty cheap.

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Posted by traci506

I am shocked that someone would even comment on 'no kids' being an issue. A wedding is an adult affair...and I really believe it's not a place for kids...except for those extremely close to the bride and groom. My wedding will only include FH's two kids; his two nieces and my 2 cousins. I dont think anyone else would be offended. In fact, most parents dont even want to bring kids! You should nicely explain to her how you have a strict policy and if you make an exception for one person...you'd have to make it for everyone. If she doesnt understand...she is the one with the issue ; )

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unfortunately ALOT of ppl have an issue with this. I had no kids and people gave us problems. Not only that but on LIW ive seen this topic posted MANY MANY MANY times and brides saying that they have alot of ppl complain to them about the no kids policy

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by traci506

I am shocked that someone would even comment on 'no kids' being an issue. A wedding is an adult affair...and I really believe it's not a place for kids...except for those extremely close to the bride and groom. My wedding will only include FH's two kids; his two nieces and my 2 cousins. I dont think anyone else would be offended. In fact, most parents dont even want to bring kids! You should nicely explain to her how you have a strict policy and if you make an exception for one person...you'd have to make it for everyone. If she doesnt understand...she is the one with the issue ; )

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unfortunately ALOT of ppl have an issue with this. I had no kids and people gave us problems. Not only that but on LIW ive seen this topic posted MANY MANY MANY times and brides saying that they have alot of ppl complain to them about the no kids policy

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wow. never thought this would be a point of contention. FH and I havent been invited to a wedding with his kids yet...but if we were...we wouldnt even take them. for one, we want to have fun. and two, i dont want to doubel my gift for them to have chicken fingers! LOL

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Posted by traci506

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by traci506

I am shocked that someone would even comment on 'no kids' being an issue. A wedding is an adult affair...and I really believe it's not a place for kids...except for those extremely close to the bride and groom. My wedding will only include FH's two kids; his two nieces and my 2 cousins. I dont think anyone else would be offended. In fact, most parents dont even want to bring kids! You should nicely explain to her how you have a strict policy and if you make an exception for one person...you'd have to make it for everyone. If she doesnt understand...she is the one with the issue ; )

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unfortunately ALOT of ppl have an issue with this. I had no kids and people gave us problems. Not only that but on LIW ive seen this topic posted MANY MANY MANY times and brides saying that they have alot of ppl complain to them about the no kids policy

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wow. never thought this would be a point of contention. FH and I havent been invited to a wedding with his kids yet...but if we were...we wouldnt even take them. for one, we want to have fun. and two, i dont want to doubel my gift for them to have chicken fingers! LOL

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thats what i said too, i mean when i have kids and they are very young, i have no plans of bringing them with me to weddings. And its funny bc alot of ppl complain if you dont invite kids but most dont put in for their kids, i think most think its free.

It is ridiculous, i cant believe the drama that occured. There were also some people of DH's side that all rsvp'd just 1, meanwhile theyre married and wrote on our response cards 'we have no babysitter so my husband cant attend your wedding' this was after we heard things they were saying. So yeah from what i know, a few ppl decided to protest in a way by coming alone. meanwhile its funny bc some had family members on their husbands side who watches the kids when they need them to but they wanted to teach us a lesson i think

I don't understand why this would be a problem. You are giving her more than enough notice to get a babysitter. It is your wedding and if you do not want kids at the wedding then there should be no kids.

If she is a good friend she'll understand.