Ok I need to vent…. LONG

I have serious family issues, my parents divorced when I was 12. I didn’t really ever have a relationship with my father. Then I didn’t talk to him for 12 years. (he moved to California). A few years ago I decided that I will reach out and attempt to have a civil relationship with him. We never got close like a father daughter should be. My mother raised me he was never there nor did he pay his child support. He is a real bum. Now, two months ago I told him that I pushed my wedding up to this year and wanted to let him know so he can make his flight arrangements. He asked me who is walking you down the isle. I told him my mother. (I didn’t want to make it any worse and tell him my step father too.) He got all mad at me and said “Well I have to go crawl in a hole now.” I simply said good bye and made the decision not to even invite him.

Now here I am two months later and I get this email that was like 2 pages long about how he is so hurt that he isn’t going to walk me down the isle and that he can’t believe that I would have my mother do it. Saying all this stuff to try to get me to feel guilty and let him have the honor of walking me down. He said that he asked his “friends” (none of them I know so they don’t know what he really did to me, my sisters and my mother) and they all told him I was totally wrong he is my father. He doesn’t want people at MY wedding to talk about him. Asking why he didn’t walk me down the isle. Now, I am so far from a bridezilla but dammit it is my day and no one wants to talk about him let alone see him!

So, he is going to make it easier for everyone involved and not come….HELLO YOU AREN’T EVEN INVITED! My invites haven’t gone out yet but he isn’t even on my b list! Then at the end of all of this crap he has thrown at me he says. Are you registered anywhere? Well, if that didn’t set me off nothing will! Where am I registered at? I am registered at the bank dumbass! If he really wanted to know go ask your trusty “friends” they know! I am not even going to dignify his email with a response. Do you want to know the truth? I am not even the slightest bit hurt about any of this. I just think he has some pair 2 months before my wedding to put this on me. But, little did he know it didn’t work. Now he misses the best day of my life and more grandchildren that he could have known. (my sister has two that he doesn’t know about). Well, thanks for listening! I really needed to get that off my chest!

so sorry you are going through this.

i'm sorry this is something you have to deal with at this point. just do what you feel is right. you don't have to make anyone happy but you and fh. i'm sure everything will all work out!