OK need to vent about BM
I have to post this under a different name because I know that my BM knows about this board and might read here.
Ok I have had problems with one of my BM's about 3 months after I asked her - it is like her head suddenly spins around like in the exorcist. She was a nice girl then totally turned psycho on me.
As time is going on I am having people coming over and telling me she did or told them things, I find out that my BM's are getting together to discuss (w/out me) how to deal with her, and then the last straw happened when she called and yelled at me and called me names.
Ok apparently she has told at least 3 people (there might be more - but these people TOLD me so I know definitely about them) that she is my MOH (which she is NOT) and there could be NO confusion as to this point (MOH in different dress and she was there when the dresses were ordered) and was announced as my MOH at the e-party
Then she told people at my e-party that she made money on my gift (she split the price of an expensive gift with someone - then told people she used gift certificates and coupons for discounts - but told the other person for 1/2 the FULL price - so she tells people by doing that I actually MADE money!)
She asked for every females AIM info at the party because since SHE is planning my shower alone she needs all the help she can get as MOH - nevermind the fact that apparently my BM have tried to involve her in the planning of the shower but she is never interested or tries to take over with what they say are HORRIBLY inappropriate suggestions
She got a drink (white wine) spilled in her purse at the e-party (total accident) and she complained so much to my parents that they offered to replace purse - she told them it was expensive etc. Well she said she could get a new one for 20$ so they gave her the money - then when we went out for drinks later she apparently bought a new one in the mean time for 8$ - and then told my friend her old one was only 10$ -
Then she tells me that she refuses to get her hair and makeup done with the girls she will only use her person which is in westchester - so I have a choice to either use her person OR she will leave us before the wedding drive back to westchester get that done then come back (this is a girl who CAN'T be on time - so I KNOW if we allow her to do that she will show up like 1 hour after the wedding was supposed to take place.
Well the last straw happened yesterday when she called me from the store where she was picking up her gown. Telling me that they are trying to charge her too much and that I need to straighten it out. Well I find out that the amount is right and I tell her that and she totally flips out on me. I said to her is this going to be a problem we can work something out? She relies - well what the F*** does it matter I'm F*****g stuck aren't I you F*****G B***H and slams down the phone. Now mind you she got a receipt the day we paid the deposit, and when I spoke to her the other day she KNEW how much the dress was. Apparently she told a BM it was NOT the amount SHE had to pay that was the issue it was the cost of the total dress price that was an issue for her (I paid 100$ towards all of the dresses)
Now my family and I have paid the difference in the price of the gowns I picked and the price of the ones they picked because we thought it was too expensive to begin with. I am already buying them all shawls and now when I was upset and told my mother she now insists that I pay an addition 100$ towards each girls dress.
This would mean I would be paying 260$ towards each girl + their gift - I simply cannot afford to do that and the other girls will not allow me to do this except for this one girl. (she makes 3x the amount that I do and she lives at home so she is always spending money on this or that)
The other BM's tell me they will kick her out if I don't or they hope she gets hit by a bus![]()
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I don't have the heart to throw her out - mom tells me I can't do it - but if I do I have to give her the money for her dress and any other expenses like the gift she bought me for the engagement party. The other girls tell me no they have been in parties where girls have been thrown out and the bride has never paid them back.
What do I do - let the girls throw her out? I am fed up but don't have the heart to throw her out myself.
Ok I have had problems with one of my BM's about 3 months after I asked her - it is like her head suddenly spins around like in the exorcist. She was a nice girl then totally turned psycho on me.
As time is going on I am having people coming over and telling me she did or told them things, I find out that my BM's are getting together to discuss (w/out me) how to deal with her, and then the last straw happened when she called and yelled at me and called me names.
Ok apparently she has told at least 3 people (there might be more - but these people TOLD me so I know definitely about them) that she is my MOH (which she is NOT) and there could be NO confusion as to this point (MOH in different dress and she was there when the dresses were ordered) and was announced as my MOH at the e-party
Then she told people at my e-party that she made money on my gift (she split the price of an expensive gift with someone - then told people she used gift certificates and coupons for discounts - but told the other person for 1/2 the FULL price - so she tells people by doing that I actually MADE money!)
She asked for every females AIM info at the party because since SHE is planning my shower alone she needs all the help she can get as MOH - nevermind the fact that apparently my BM have tried to involve her in the planning of the shower but she is never interested or tries to take over with what they say are HORRIBLY inappropriate suggestions
She got a drink (white wine) spilled in her purse at the e-party (total accident) and she complained so much to my parents that they offered to replace purse - she told them it was expensive etc. Well she said she could get a new one for 20$ so they gave her the money - then when we went out for drinks later she apparently bought a new one in the mean time for 8$ - and then told my friend her old one was only 10$ -
Then she tells me that she refuses to get her hair and makeup done with the girls she will only use her person which is in westchester - so I have a choice to either use her person OR she will leave us before the wedding drive back to westchester get that done then come back (this is a girl who CAN'T be on time - so I KNOW if we allow her to do that she will show up like 1 hour after the wedding was supposed to take place.
Well the last straw happened yesterday when she called me from the store where she was picking up her gown. Telling me that they are trying to charge her too much and that I need to straighten it out. Well I find out that the amount is right and I tell her that and she totally flips out on me. I said to her is this going to be a problem we can work something out? She relies - well what the F*** does it matter I'm F*****g stuck aren't I you F*****G B***H and slams down the phone. Now mind you she got a receipt the day we paid the deposit, and when I spoke to her the other day she KNEW how much the dress was. Apparently she told a BM it was NOT the amount SHE had to pay that was the issue it was the cost of the total dress price that was an issue for her (I paid 100$ towards all of the dresses)
Now my family and I have paid the difference in the price of the gowns I picked and the price of the ones they picked because we thought it was too expensive to begin with. I am already buying them all shawls and now when I was upset and told my mother she now insists that I pay an addition 100$ towards each girls dress.
This would mean I would be paying 260$ towards each girl + their gift - I simply cannot afford to do that and the other girls will not allow me to do this except for this one girl. (she makes 3x the amount that I do and she lives at home so she is always spending money on this or that)
The other BM's tell me they will kick her out if I don't or they hope she gets hit by a bus
I don't have the heart to throw her out - mom tells me I can't do it - but if I do I have to give her the money for her dress and any other expenses like the gift she bought me for the engagement party. The other girls tell me no they have been in parties where girls have been thrown out and the bride has never paid them back.
What do I do - let the girls throw her out? I am fed up but don't have the heart to throw her out myself.
