Ok now i need opinions & help

soontobemrsag Posted: Apr 26, 2009 07:15 PM

Ok now i need opinions & help

Ok so long story short i hate my 2 sister in laws. Im not being conceited at all but i am a sweetheart - i cook all the holidays (im a chef/catere) i always invite everyone over but over the last 6 years theres always been problems - im not an angel but i defend myself & if you make me mad/hurt me i am EVIL (lol) so i am not putting them on my shower list & i would love to be able to not include them at the wedding - obviously i cant do that... just to give you a little idea of what i deal with - one SIL got married at the justice of the peace and didnt tell any of the family memebers until we got a 'we got married' card in the mail. 3 weeks later me & FH were engaged after we told everyone we were looking for rings but I one up'ed her - *** are you crazy i had no idea when i was getting engaged. The other SIL IN THE CHURCH AT OUR DAUGHTERS CHRISTENING says i cant believe the church is letting them christening her when there not married.....
at my e-party there was crap said too. GRRRR

like i said i can be mean if i have to - no inviting them to the shower is going to feel good - i wont have to worry about any crap being said about me or anything.

Any thoughts..... thanks!

grkbarbie Posted: Apr 26, 2009 07:27 PM

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yea.. i dont think thats a good idea.. crap wontbe said to u AT your shower by them... but crap will be said. seems like ur running away from them by not inviting them. what does ur FMIL say? and howdo u think she will feel with her daughters not being invited? this WILL cause A LOT of problems. and what bout ur fh?

i would just push my feelings aside if i were u..be nice.. smile..and let the dogs bark

im sure ur not the onl person they are nasty to.. ppl know what they are about..

dont sweat it.

mosh424 Posted: Apr 26, 2009 07:28 PM

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i understand that they are B*tches but you need to be the bigger person and still invite them. Obviously they are jealous of you and FH and that is why they are acting like this.

What does FH say about this? Is this what he wants also? Will it add conflict with your in-laws?

FallBride2010 Posted: Apr 26, 2009 07:37 PM

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I'm going to have the opposite response as everyone else. If you dont like them...and they dont like you...then you shouldnt have them there. This is about you...and you dont need anyone bringing you down on your special day. The way I see it...if you have done the right thing for 6 years...and they still act the way they act...you have done as much as you can. FM if you want. I totally understand how you feel.

iHeartMoogle Posted: Apr 26, 2009 08:34 PM

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Personally, I would have to invite them and hope they don't show up. Can you have your shower on a day when they're busy?

You really need to see how FH feels. They are his sisters and you need to respect that. If he doesn't want them there either, then it's a decision you have to make. Just make sure you'll be comfortable with this decision years down the road (like, maybe they stop being b*tches).

bubberflys Posted: Apr 26, 2009 09:02 PM

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Posted by FallBride2010

I'm going to have the opposite response as everyone else. If you dont like them...and they dont like you...then you shouldnt have them there. This is about you...and you dont need anyone bringing you down on your special day. The way I see it...if you have done the right thing for 6 years...and they still act the way they act...you have done as much as you can. FM if you want. I totally understand how you feel.

I have to agree here... but that's just because I come from a family with 'issues'. I was considering doing this to my own sister (not even an in-law). Eventually my father got involved so she's probably gonna have to be invited just because...

paprika023 Posted: Apr 26, 2009 09:14 PM

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what does the rest of your family think of your SILs?

do you still have a good relationship with your brothers? i think theyd be a good place to start to figure things out..

hope it all works out

LaurenJosh Posted: Apr 26, 2009 09:21 PM

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I think that if they are going to make you uncomfortable or upset on your shower day, then they shouldn't be invited. It's a day for you to be happy and celebrate, not a day to have drama. From the way they sound, doesn't seem like they'd want to be there anyway.

soontobemrsag Posted: Apr 26, 2009 09:26 PM

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Posted by iHeartMoogle

Personally, I would have to invite them and hope they don't show up. Can you have your shower on a day when they're busy?

You really need to see how FH feels. They are his sisters and you need to respect that. If he doesn't want them there either, then it's a decision you have to make. Just make sure you'll be comfortable with this decision years down the road (like, maybe they stop being b*tches).

just to be clear sorry i should have earlier - they are FH's sister inlaws - his brothers wives.... change anyones opinion???? LOL

soontobemrsag Posted: Apr 26, 2009 09:27 PM

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Posted by FallBride2010

I'm going to have the opposite response as everyone else. If you dont like them...and they dont like you...then you shouldnt have them there. This is about you...and you dont need anyone bringing you down on your special day. The way I see it...if you have done the right thing for 6 years...and they still act the way they act...you have done as much as you can. FM if you want. I totally understand how you feel.

Thanks, it ***** and its funny because FH agrees with me.... hows your planning coming you can FM me too - thanks for listening!

soontobemrsag Posted: Apr 26, 2009 09:28 PM

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thanks for listening and your opinions ladies!!

iHeartMoogle Posted: Apr 27, 2009 01:21 AM

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Yes. That changes everything. Still see how FH feels, but there is more wiggle room if they're not blood...

stinenandy2010 Posted: Apr 27, 2009 07:56 AM

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I wouldn't include them....we're not including FH's SIL and Sister....we talked through it and it wasnt a problem. Good luck!

soontobecruz Posted: Apr 27, 2009 08:14 AM

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I wouldn't invite them. They sounds like bad people and I wouldn't want to be around or force my caring family members to be around bad people at my shower. Your shower is to celebrate you the bride and if they are going to make snide comments and put you down... then it is kind of a no brainer. As long as FH is in agreement with you (which you said he is) I wouldn't have them, and I wouldn't feel bad about it either... They made their bed... now they can lay in it....