okay ladies how do i handle this???

okay ladies how do i handle this???

its has been such a beautiful day and i must say that i have been enjoying my engagement and the planning because i started so early- now its at the 6 month mark and everyone is out of their **** minds- my FMIL is ****ed because i dont have any of my FH sisters(theres 3) in the WP- okay- one is aviloent nasty drunk who stole the others ones man and they cant be in the same room and the other one i hardly even speak to- so she is saying that if her daughters cant be in the wedding then her granddaughter who is the flower girl cant be in it- is this lady friggin for real or what??let the drama begin

Re: okay ladies how do i handle this???

Sorry you are going through this. Its up to you. If you aren't close with them, you don't have to ask them.

Re: okay ladies how do i handle this???

to you - shw sounds ike she deosn't realize why you both deicded to do the wp this way....maybe explain to her that you thought they might be better suited oing somethign esle and then come up with a quick job for them to do

if not, then just keep telling yourself that she will not get to you...(then try to make yourself believe it too! - the hard part!)

good luck and sorry to hear about it

Re: okay ladies how do i handle this???

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I'd tell her you didn't want to chose between the 3 so you chose none- btw IT'S MY FRIGGEN WEDDING.

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who's wedding is this? She sounds kind of controlling..i would just tell her how ya feel and tell her to back off! Can you Fh talk to her and reason with her? sorry you have to go through that!!!!

Re: okay ladies how do i handle this???

Unfortunately, the drama only gets worse as you get closer!!!

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I had my SIL in the wedding who I am in no way close to. She hasnt been so nice to me in the past. I will tell you that I would not of asked her if I had to do it all over again. It just added to problems.

My advice, if you are not close with them, it will only cause you trouble and grief! Also, they are not going to appreciate you any more if you ask them as opposed to not asking them.

Good luck!

Re: okay ladies how do i handle this???

It's hard but don't let her rain on your parade. What does FH say about all this? I would let him handle it, she's HIS mother and they're HIS sisters!

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I asked my FSIL, to be nice to be in the BP, and she didn't help with the shower, sisn't even show up for it, and then we gave her the option to back out. Putting someon in teh BP for othe3r people does not work. THey probably don't want to be in ti anyway, it will only casue problems. Good luck.

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I asked my FSIL (which is not my FI sister its his brothers fiance) and we dont get along BUT i decicded by asking her it might change our realtionship! She accepted! I was happy and then 3 months later she dropped out! Things were fine, we went dress shopping together talked by email you know...I was trying...turns out she was not happy that we got engaged in the same month! Like she had control over our engagement....Now this turned into WW 3 in the house hold... i mean bad!!!
I went over to her house and told her off
and told her that the only reason why her FI got a ring was b/c mine went looking for one...(its true i was not being mean) he did not want her to be upset....huh!! what a joke...
Me and my FI have beeen together 3 years lived together for 2 they had been DATING 9 months!!!
uhhh, jealousy is not the word so my adivce dont bother being nice to them if you dont have a realinship with them now...they only f**k you in the end!!!