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Okay - why is my MARRIED ex sending me e-mail?!?!?!?

akaMrsT Posted:

Okay - why is my MARRIED ex sending me e-mail?!?!?!?

junebride! Posted:

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wow! i agree you should tell Reggie this looks like it oculd become a dangerous situation...with stalkings and all. be careful.

ps maybe you should forward it to his wife
mta Posted:

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Oh boy! I am glad someone else has an ex that does this. My ex freaked out when I told him I was getting married too! My ex is married too! Men are nuts, they want what they can't have!

akaMrsT Posted:

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SomethingBlu Posted:

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He married a girl named Kathy? Obssessed much? Yuck!
CubanBride Posted:

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Hmm, I ust read it and it really looks like he just wanted to apologize and maybe friends again. It doesn't seem like anything more. I wouldn't make a deal out of it. Yeah, tell you FH if that makes you confortable, but dont dwell on it.

Mrs_B Posted:

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His email sounds harmless, kinda like he just wants to put the negative way he was towards you behind him.. But, you know him better than any of us do, so I think you should do what you feel is best. IMO I don't think it would make matters better by telling FH, especially if you don't plan on responding to his email.

traceyd Posted:

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It sounds to be like he may be unhappy in his marriage and I personally would not respond to his emails-I think it is asking for trouble.

Too bad you dont know his wifes email address because I like that suggestion!
Latrice Posted:

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JMO - there needs to be no communication with your ex....especially if no children are involved......leave him alone. Tell Reggie and your brother...but do not respond to his email.

I would never have sent him pics of my FI or anything like that either.....but, again, jmo.

Men are sneaky...if he still has the special place for you in his heart....all he needs is to feel that you have a little bit of interest or time for him....and that is enough to set off some real drama.
rugs88 Posted:

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Some men have a hard time letting go...even if they have someone else-my ex is married WITH KIDS and still calls me from time to time-which i never answer the phone. I know it's a pain, maybe you could change your email? if you feel threatened it might make you feel better...hope everything works out.

akaMrsT Posted:

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CubanBride Posted:

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Well there isn't anything wrong with talking to an ex. Unless that is if he is trying to get somewhere with you. I talk to mine once in awhile cause we are still friendly. he has a live in girlfriend and a baby but we still chat via email. She doesn't like it if he talks to other girls ie very jealous, but he is like, 'she doesn't own me, I am allowed to have a couple of friends aren't I?' I was gonna invite him to the wedding, but Gary gave me a face. Also my best friend said it's a bad idea. I feel really bad because he wants to come, but what am I supposed to do?

Oh, sorry, got off on a tangent. Anyway my point was that if you (not you directly kdrainey) can be friendly with an ex, go ahead. There is nothing wrong with it.
sgusti Posted:

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I think it is because men always want what they don't have anymore. My ex did the same thing to me. I told my FH and he is not concern. I say leave the past to the past and move forward.

CubanBride Posted:

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Posted by sgusti

I think it is because men always want what they don't have anymore. My ex did the same thing to me. I told my FH and he is not concern. I say leave the past to the past and move forward.


I guess it depends on how things ends. Me and my ex were friends before we met and we are friendly now. Not as close obviously, but still interested in what is going on in each other's lives.
David'sbride Posted:

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JMO but I truly feel exes are exes for a reason. FH was married once before and even though they knew each other for over ten years there is absolutely no contact now. If a former relationship had it's problems concerning trust etc. then wouldn't those same problems eventually manifest themselves in a friendship? I experienced some horrible breakups and some were very friendly but all of them have one thing in common, the relationship ran it's course. I wish them all well.. I guess I'm more old fashioned when I say, once you commit yourself to one person you should want to cut the ties with all others.

It's my experience that while one wants the friendship the other usually wants more.
CubanBride Posted:

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Posted by David'sbride

JMO but I truly feel exes are exes for a reason. FH was married once before and even though they knew each other for over ten years there is absolutely no contact now. If a former relationship had it's problems concerning trust etc. then wouldn't those same problems eventually manifest themselves in a friendship? I experienced some horrible breakups and some were very friendly but all of them have one thing in common, the relationship ran it's course. I wish them all well.. I guess I'm more old fashioned when I say, once you commit yourself to one person you should want to cut the ties with all others.

It's my experience that while one wants the friendship the other usually wants more.


LOL! That's amazing. Most of my friends still chat withtheir exes once in awhile. Ya know, just to say hey, how are you doing. Everyone's different though.
akaMrsT Posted:

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akaMrsT Posted:

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CubanBride Posted:

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Posted by kdrainey

The ex that called today wants more. Well, he did not say that today but he did ask me a few months ago to have a fling with him. He called at like midnight a while back (Reggie was here) asking if he could come over too. So, needless to say Reggie dislikes him.


OK, now he's just an a-hole.
ssdbk Posted:

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I think that the e-mail that you got is subject to interpretation. He could have been just trying to wish you the best, but he could be up to something. I think that you are the best person to figure out what history tells you about this guy.

I've heard before that exes come out of the woodwork when you are planning to get married. I wonder if it will happen to me or FH.

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