OMG! DRAMA!

So my mom got into a fight with uncle X over the summer. (thats the short story). Uncle X is my fathers cousin. Uncle X has a son (my cousin). I am the godmother to my cousin's daughter. (background story)

Ok... So, I had my uncle and his wife on my guest list, mainly out of respect for my cousin. I knew my mom would be mad, but I didnt think it would be a big deal. I was wrong.

My dad just called me yelling at me that my mom just found out through her friend that Uncle X's wife was invited to my bridal shower. On top of that, she found out that the invitations my sister printed didnt mention my mother as a contact.
So now my mom is p i ss ed that I invited her enemy and that her name wasnt mentioned on th bridal shower invitation.

My sister never said WHO was throwing the shower...all she said was 'contact Tara' (My BM) .
And honestly, my mom isnt even the one throwing the shower. It's my sister with the help of my BM. I would say my mom is 'maybe' helping out w. like 20% of it (AT MOST).

So now, my mom is refusing to go to the bridal shower or the wedding if they go. She wont talk to me and wants nothing to do with my wedding (not like she was involved to begin with. I have mentioned in the past that my mom has if anything made things worse for me)

So, I just called my cousin and flat out told him the truth. I told him not to hate me, but I was going to have to 'Dis invite his mother'. I am sooooooooooooooooooooooo EMBARRASSED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Now, everyone is mad. My cousin is hurt. My aunt will be hurt and spread this around. I am mortified. My mom is still being a c u n t. my dad is p i s s e d too b.c he has to deal with my mom. and my poor 20 year old sister is getting c r a p for the invitations.

I swear this wedding process has only torn my family apart more than anything. This is def. not what I had in mind.

I think you did the right thing by inviting your aunt..and also planning on inviting them to the wedding..... I don't know what went down between your mom and uncle x...but there comes a time when people have to just put their drama aside and focus on the bigger picture.. YOUR WEDDING...
Apparantly the only person that was upset about you inviting them was your mother but now, after disinviting them..a whole lot more people are upset...
this is a horrible situation to be in... your mother has put you in a horrible spot... i am so sorry that you're going through this...

My mom is throwing my shower.. but she didn't list who was throwing it on the invite because she didn't want to make FH's mother feel bad... so she just has the RSVP contact info... which does not indicate who is throwing the shower...
I don't see why she is so upset about that...

I think you should talk to your mother...and if possible...reinvite them...

you know sometimes I think of my mom as the stereotypical macho man. LOL. If they dont get their way, then they want NOTHING to do with it. and when you try to talk sense into them, they always turn it around and make it seem like 'YOU are supposed to respect ME, I am the 'MAN','

I am so not looking forward to going home tonight and dealing with this s h i t.

I'm so sorry you're going through this!

This is a horrible situation !! I don't know the whole situation but if you weren't involved with the fight you should let your mom know that this was between her and uncle X and his wife. It didn't have anything to do with you and that she shouldn't be putting you in the middle of it ESPECIALLY on your wedding day.

If she won't to the wedding because they are there than she is really showing you that she cares more about her pride than her own daughter's happiness.... to me that is really selfish. Explain to her that no matter what the situation was that they are still family and ... honestly ... you are not expecting her to be friendly or even talk to them at the wedding. Can't she let it go for one night ???

I could only imagine how embarrased you are! I would be so upset. Weddings cause so much drama sometimes. I would have totally blamed everything on my mom. I would have been like 'I'm sorry but my mom is threatening to not come if I don't un-invite you'

I would call your aunt personally to apologize instead of her just hearing it from your cousin. You don't have to explain just say that your sorry and that you wish it wasn't this difficult but that although it's your weddingyou don't have control of everything. I'm sure she'll appreciate the call.

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Posted by ChrissyV729

This is a horrible situation !! I don't know the whole situation but if you weren't involved with the fight you should let your mom know that this was between her and uncle X and his wife. It didn't have anything to do with you and that she shouldn't be putting you in the middle of it ESPECIALLY on your wedding day.

If she won't to the wedding because they are there than she is really showing you that she cares more about her pride than her own daughter's happiness.... to me that is really selfish. Explain to her that no matter what the situation was that they are still family and ... honestly ... you are not expecting her to be friendly or even talk to them at the wedding. Can't she let it go for one night ???

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The messed up part is that the main reason I invited them was to keep things peaceful. I honestly could care less if they go or not. BUT i did it out of respect for my cousin (I felt bad) plus I figured she'd get over it. Now, I have made things even WORSE. b.c by dis inviting them, I have officially declared that the 'beef' is still on and that my parents (mainly mom) cant stand them.

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Posted by chadjennwedding

I could only imagine how embarrased you are! I would be so upset. Weddings cause so much drama sometimes. I would have totally blamed everything on my mom. I would have been like 'I'm sorry but my mom is threatening to not come if I don't un-invite you'

I would call your aunt personally to apologize instead of her just hearing it from your cousin. You don't have to explain just say that your sorry and that you wish it wasn't this difficult but that although it's your weddingyou don't have control of everything. I'm sure she'll appreciate the call.

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I am so embarrassed I just want to crawl under a rock. There is no way I can talk to her. I wouldnt even know what to say. !!!!

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Posted by Cacarina

I am really sorry this is happening to you, it is not fair. Your mom is making this about HER, when it is supposed to be about YOU. Sometimes in life we have to compromise for those we love. Maybe your sister can reason with her?

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My sister has a worse temper than me. My sister will prob. tell my mom off and then cause even MORE drama. If anything I am trying to reason with her NOT to go nuts on the friend that told her my aunt was invited. b.c chances are, she prob. added fuel to the fire.

i can't believe your mother is refusing to go to your wedding. i'm sorry she's putting you thought this. i don't think any set of circumstances really excuses her behavior, and i hope she gets a hold of herself. in the mean time it's not always easy with family.

Im sorry you are going thru this drama! vent vent away!

I don't even know what to say I'm so sorry that you are going through this