OMG DRAMA...real drama long

Ok so listen to this.....growing up I had a huge group of friends a 'play group'.....I have a brother who's 4.5 yrs older than me and as young kid his group of friends younger siblings and I played together,,,all our parents were friends.

I maintain a relationship with most of them who I am inviting to my wedding..one girl (who's mom is friends with my mom) I do not know well and have never had a relationship with her (athough I have nothing against this girl).

She is odd and hasnt treated my brother or the rest of the group like friends for years....hasnt gone to my bro or his BFF's (my 2nd brother) wedding..she does not make any effort to maintain a friendship but occasionally will appear at a bbq for the last 10 minutes or whatever

She was never on my list for my shower or wedding NOT bc she doesent ever go to my brother and his friends things (which is bad enough) but bc I do not have a relationship with her see her once every 2 yrs and say hello

well her mom is highly offended and cant believe everyone was invited but her...so her moms not coming to my shower either....

the thing is this girl has excluded herself from her main group of friends (my brother's crew) BUT I have never had a relationship w/ her....she is comparing herself to the other 'older' kids who I talk to, hang out with etc.... IT IS RIDICIOULS I never even THOUGHT to invite her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My mom feels bad bc she says her and her mom 'dont get it' and they 'geninuely feel bad'

Would you invite this person just to appease the mother?

Would you be upset that the mother isnt coming because of it? If yes, then I guess I'd invite her... otherwise, I'd let it go. You had your reasons, you cant invite EVERYONE you've ever known... There's always someone that's not happy, but that person should be you!

I know and at the end of the day my mom can invite her bc she is paying and therefore it is her decision...the thing is the more I think about it the more it annoys me....

my brother had a destination wedding July...obv a lot of people couldnt go so this past sunday all the friends had a bbq for my bro and SIL and she did not show....(the thing is she never shows...didnt even go to my bros BFF wedding last yr which was 10 minutes from home) she never called to congratulate my brother....

thats fine its her business....but now shes so highly offended that she didnt get invited to mine (i hate to keep saying this but she is my brothers friend not mine lol so i have no reason to invite her in the first place)

I feel like the 'rules' dont apply to her...she can insult and not show but then she is so touchy when she's not invited to something where she barely has a relationship with the bride????

I guess in the long run it is your mom's decision but if I were your mom I would contact this girls mom and have an adult conversation - explain she is friends w/ your brother and did not attend his or other friends events. So why is she pset that she was not invited to your event when...people are ridiculous !

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Posted by 08JulyBride

Then I'd just invite her and save yourself the headache.. some battles just aren't worth the energy

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agreed

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Posted by Kerin2804

I guess in the long run it is your mom's decision but if I were your mom I would contact this girls mom and have an adult conversation - explain she is friends w/ your brother and did not attend his or other friends events. So why is she pset that she was not invited to your event when...people are ridiculous !

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I think ths is what my moms gonna do...the whole thing is so complicated bc its a huge group of friends and there is so much history

the funny part is if i do invite her she prob wont come anyway lol