OMG FH is such a pain...!!!!!!!

i just wanna take his head and put it in a vice right now! lol. I don't know what woke him up.. he went to bed really early and left me to be bored.. i guess the dog was bothering him..but now he's awake and He's soo annoying... no matter what i say or do he's like ok i don't wanna hear it right now. What exactly don't you wanna hear.. pretty much everything i have to say??? arggg! he really $ucks at the communication thing... especially if your expressing a feeling that includes him doing something you feel is wrong or hurtful..and it's just sooo frustrating sometimes!! I feel like i can never get my point across and he only realizes how dumb he's being when other people who aren't biased ( like my friends..lmao) tell him he's being a jerk or being stupid about something. 30 minutes will pass and then he'll go on like nothing ever happened.. or he'll just say 'i'm sorry honey' and want to move on.. well i'm sorry..i can't do that.!!! I need to talk things through... and sometimes it drives me freaking nuts!!!! I really want to try and get him into couples therapy for the whole communication thing.. but he's such a pill that i'd really have to force him and on top of that we just really can't afford that right now. ahhhh.. maybe he'll fall back to sleep after he eats..guys like to sleep after they eat..right? lol

sorry girls.. just hadda let that all out...Carry on all...lolol

Oh I know how that can be...tonight we were suppose to go to the Feast of Mother Cabreni and he decided to register and do Fantasy Football online with his GM from GA...which is fine...until it becomes 4 HOURS on the computer, I miss the fireworks, I walk over and see him IM his friend with 'My B*tch is b*tching at me, I have to go...' SO low and behold...we did NOT go to the feast. I went to bed at like 10:30 and then around 10:45 he comes in and says 'We didn't eat...wanna go to Mc Donald's?' NO, I DON'T WANT TO GO TO MC DONALDS WITH YOU!!! GO AWAY...

MEN!

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Posted by ArmyOfBabies

That stinks! I'm sorry he's being a pain! Slip him some Tylenol PMs and call it a night!

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ha ha ha ha ha... i love it...lol

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Posted by MissMaster13

Oh I know how that can be...tonight we were suppose to go to the Feast of Mother Cabreni and he decided to register and do Fantasy Football online with his GM from GA...which is fine...until it becomes 4 HOURS on the computer, I miss the fireworks, I walk over and see him IM his friend with 'My B*tch is b*tching at me, I have to go...' SO low and behold...we did NOT go to the feast. I went to bed at like 10:30 and then around 10:45 he comes in and says 'We didn't eat...wanna go to Mc Donald's?' NO, I DON'T WANT TO GO TO MC DONALDS WITH YOU!!! GO AWAY...

MEN!

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UGH! that got me annoyed for you! lol.... i say we stick em in a room together and all us girls go out and have fun! lol

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Posted by JTsGal829

ahhhh.. maybe he'll fall back to sleep after he eats..guys like to sleep after they eat..right? lol

sorry girls.. just hadda let that all out...Carry on all...lolol

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He would def go back to sleep if you feed him TURKEY. You know how people get that TG syndrome.
Guys $uck.

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Posted by Tori9299

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Posted by JTsGal829

ahhhh.. maybe he'll fall back to sleep after he eats..guys like to sleep after they eat..right? lol

sorry girls.. just hadda let that all out...Carry on all...lolol

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He would def go back to sleep if you feed him TURKEY. You know how people get that TG syndrome.
Guys $uck.

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Posted by Tori9299

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Posted by JTsGal829

ahhhh.. maybe he'll fall back to sleep after he eats..guys like to sleep after they eat..right? lol

sorry girls.. just hadda let that all out...Carry on all...lolol

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He would def go back to sleep if you feed him TURKEY. You know how people get that TG syndrome.
Guys $uck.

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i was thinking the same thing!! so how did the rest of the morning go???? is he any better now??

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Posted by krissyB2b

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Posted by Tori9299

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Posted by JTsGal829

ahhhh.. maybe he'll fall back to sleep after he eats..guys like to sleep after they eat..right? lol

sorry girls.. just hadda let that all out...Carry on all...lolol

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He would def go back to sleep if you feed him TURKEY. You know how people get that TG syndrome.
Guys $uck.

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i was thinking the same thing!! so how did the rest of the morning go???? is he any better now??

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well besides the fact that he just went and got beer which means he's gonna be soooo retarded all day.. i guess ok.. lmao. I just ignore him when he drinks now cause he starts acting like an @$$..... lol.
Trust me i don't mind when people drink.. i was a bartender.... and i love to get drunk with my friends.. but he gets drunk for no reason and it's sooo annoying!!!!!!!!

sorry couples therapy is expensive but the book i read '101 things i wish i know when i got married' is written by a couple who are both therapists and do couples therapy, it can be helpful and deal alot with things like this...One thing i found helpful in the book is that instead of saying things like 'oh YOU dont spend enough time with me, You do this and it gets me mad' say 'I would like to spend more time with you' when they hear YOU do this and YOU dont do that, they get defensive right away and dont want to deal with it...If instead you just address what you want in a non blaming way and just say it from the heart like, I miss you babe and I would love it if we did this, it would mean alot to me they approach it differently

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Posted by Espo22

sorry couples therapy is expensive but the book i read '101 things i wish i know when i got married' is written by a couple who are both therapists and do couples therapy, it can be helpful and deal alot with things like this...One thing i found helpful in the book is that instead of saying things like 'oh YOU dont spend enough time with me, You do this and it gets me mad' say 'I would like to spend more time with you' when they hear YOU do this and YOU dont do that, they get defensive right away and dont want to deal with it...If instead you just address what you want in a non blaming way and just say it from the heart like, I miss you babe and I would love it if we did this, it would mean alot to me they approach it differently

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i may have to pick that up next time i'm at the book store!!!!!! that sounds like great advice... def. something i would love to read more into.. i'd love to try and get FH to read something like that.... i'm sure he would too just to try and find things i do wrong to point out to me.. but hey if it gets him to read the book..then woo hoo..lmao!! thanks for the info denise

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Posted by JTsGal829

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Posted by Espo22

sorry couples therapy is expensive but the book i read '101 things i wish i know when i got married' is written by a couple who are both therapists and do couples therapy, it can be helpful and deal alot with things like this...One thing i found helpful in the book is that instead of saying things like 'oh YOU dont spend enough time with me, You do this and it gets me mad' say 'I would like to spend more time with you' when they hear YOU do this and YOU dont do that, they get defensive right away and dont want to deal with it...If instead you just address what you want in a non blaming way and just say it from the heart like, I miss you babe and I would love it if we did this, it would mean alot to me they approach it differently

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i may have to pick that up next time i'm at the book store!!!!!! that sounds like great advice... def. something i would love to read more into.. i'd love to try and get FH to read something like that.... i'm sure he would too just to try and find things i do wrong to point out to me.. but hey if it gets him to read the book..then woo hoo..lmao!! thanks for the info denise

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yeah its good advice and I thought about it. I mean if Fh said to me 'you do this and you dont do that' i will start getting defensive myself and like ok here we go im getting blamed for something. But if he sincerely came to me, not mad at all just spoke from the heart and said 'hey babe, i would love it if we did this, it would mean alot to me' i would see how much it means to him and also it would not be something that I get mad about or start a problem plus i would listen carefully from the beginning to everything he is saying.

He wouldn't blame you if he read it, first of all its both a man and woman who wrote it so you get both sides. But its always about looking at your own self and how you can handle the situation differently, how maybe we ourselves contribute to it, and they say how sitting there and blaming the other person and always wanting to be right wont help at all. We could be right and prove our points but also at the same time not happy because were fighting and not getting what we want, only that we proved our own point.

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by JTsGal829

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Posted by Espo22

sorry couples therapy is expensive but the book i read '101 things i wish i know when i got married' is written by a couple who are both therapists and do couples therapy, it can be helpful and deal alot with things like this...One thing i found helpful in the book is that instead of saying things like 'oh YOU dont spend enough time with me, You do this and it gets me mad' say 'I would like to spend more time with you' when they hear YOU do this and YOU dont do that, they get defensive right away and dont want to deal with it...If instead you just address what you want in a non blaming way and just say it from the heart like, I miss you babe and I would love it if we did this, it would mean alot to me they approach it differently

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i may have to pick that up next time i'm at the book store!!!!!! that sounds like great advice... def. something i would love to read more into.. i'd love to try an d get FH to read something like that.... i'm sure he would too just to try and find things i do wrong to point out to me.. but hey if it gets him to read the book..then woo hoo..lmao!! thanks for the info denise

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yeah its good advice and I thought about it. I mean if Fh said to me 'you do this and you dont do that' i will start getting defensive myself and like ok here we go im getting blamed for something. But if he sincerely came to me, not mad at all just spoke from the heart and said 'hey babe, i would love it if we did this, it would mean alot to me' i would see how much it means to him and also it would not be something that I get mad about or start a problem plus i would listen carefully from the beginning to everything he is saying.

He wouldn't blame you if he read it, first of all its both a man and woman who wrote it so you get both sides. But its always about looking at your own self and how you can handle the situation differently, how maybe we ourselves contribute to it, and they say how sitting there and blaming the other person and always wanting to be right wont help at all. We could be right and prove our points but also at the same time not happy because were fighting and not getting what we want, only that we proved our own point.

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Great idea! I think I'll have to get it! Thanks! What is it with them... I think this week especially. Like 4 girls have had big fights over nothing with their FH's! Girls, we need to take a stand!!!! This is why we're on LIW all the time!!!