omg vent

He def shouldnt have said what he said to you to be hurtful. He is probably just upset and greiving and took it out on you. Not that its right to do, just thinking maybe that is how he is feeling.
Im sure he will pick you up from work. Im sorry you are going through this!

Sorry you are going thru this.

Men just suck sometimes. their defense mechanism when they are hurting it to sometimes hurt us.

I am sure he won't leave you stranded at work. Give it a few hours & then call him. Tell him you are there for him through this all because you are his family now. Tell him you love him more than anything..... & he needs to not take his hurt out on you.

HTH!

Sorry he said that. I'm sure he doesn't mean it - he is going through a hard time (but seriously, who does stay at a wake till 2 am!)

FH can get crabby when he is around his family, and has the tendency to take it out on me as well sometimes. I just shut my mouth and walk away. I know he will return to his normal loving self soon.

i'm sorry, but sends serious warning bells going through my head.
i would have a very serious chat with him before the wedding to hash this and any other underlying issues out before the wedding.

if he fails to pick you up or answer your phone calls today, i, personally, would be seriously insulted and would feel betrayed.

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Posted by Moonmist09

i'm sorry, but sends serious warning bells going through my head.
i would have a very serious chat with him before the wedding to hash this and any other underlying issues out before the wedding.

if he fails to pick you up or answer your phone calls today, i, personally, would be seriously insulted and would feel betrayed.

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Im sorry but i think so too....

I would have bugged right back like 'I am your family and I was worried about you. We made a deal and you never called so where's that 'Family' theroy now @sshole?'


And the whole idk if I want to marry you now? Don't treat me as if I am despensable to you.



I am sorry that really angered me! You'r such a nice person and he shouldn't talk to you like that!

I'm sorry lady that you have to go through this. Sit down with him today (don't wait too long because then things get worst with time), and talk through everything. I'm sure he will be extra sensitive now, so just take it little by little and make sure to work through everything.

Yes

I am so sorry that this happened, but you need to address this ASAP

Why didn't he follow the rules that you two had set forth? That, to me, is just plain lack of respect

A concept of family? Maybe your and his are different, but that doesn't mean one of you is wrong. And this needs to be addressed big time. You had the ceremony that you didn't want to placate his family, so I don't understand how he can even say that to you. His family hasn't even RSvPd to you shower, so perhaps he needs to look on the mirror

But again, this needs to be discussed today

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Posted by IrishAli

Yes

I am so sorry that this happened, but you need to address this ASAP

Why didn't he follow the rules that you two had set forth? That, to me, is just plain lack of respect

A concept of family? Maybe your and his are different, but that doesn't mean one of you is wrong. And this needs to be addressed big time. You had the ceremony that you didn't want to placate his family, so I don't understand how he can even say that to you. His family hasn't even RSvPd to you shower, so perhaps he needs to look on the mirror

But again, this needs to be discussed today

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I agree with this. You need to sit down with him and explain why you were upset and ask him why he didn't call you.

Blah. These things happen. It's part of being in a relationship. People mess up. People forgive. That's why you are choosing to be with each other. You love each other enough to forgive. Maybe he had drinks in him? Maybe he's grieving.

I'm really sorry that you are going through this- THIS close to the wedding.

But. Life happens while you're busy making plans.

I read an article last night that said- couples who NEVER fight usually don't last. If you don't fight - one or the other is a 'weaker' team member and always puts themself aside to make the other happy.

In situations like this- that person usually BLOWS UP eventually.

Talk it out- but give him space first and in the mean time-

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Posted by ColliMac23

I would have bugged right back like 'I am your family and I was worried about you. We made a deal and you never called so where's that 'Family' theroy now @sshole?'

And the whole idk if I want to marry you now? Don't treat me as if I am despensable to you.

I am sorry that really angered me! You'r such a nice person and he shouldn't talk to you like that!

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Sounds extremely similar to something I would say ... (must be the tornado thing )

That said, you kind of need to understand that he is in a bad spot right now. He just lost a family member, and its never easy. Maybe yelling at him for not calling was a little much. If FH yelled at me for not making a phone call after my father died, I would have flown off the handle, and I probably would say worse than 'I don't want to marry you' ...