OMG- Your not going to believe what just happened***UPDATED***

One of my friends whom I'm not to crazy to begin with just called me and asked me IMO the most inappropriate questions.
I sent an invitation to her house and invited her and her family (her family knows mine well-that's how we know each other). I told her that she would be able to bring this guy she is dating if she wishes. Wellllllll.....listen to this:

1)She calls and asks me if I have a Bridal Registry. I said no. She asks me why not. I said it never crossed my mind. Anyway's I think it's a little inappropriate IMO because I would feel like I'm asking for gifts. So then she asks me whether I'd have one for my wedding. I said I'd probably just have one for my bridal shower. O.k.-no so bad, right...

2) Then she say's, 'we'll I sent in my response card, would it be OK if Carmela brings her boyfriend.' HELLO, I didn't invite your roomate- I sent the invitation to her house addressed to her family and NO ONE ELSE. I was so taken back my this, I was like ummm... Carmela. I absolutely cannot stand this girl- she is such a two-face and is always taking advantage of people for money, food, etc. and inviting herself everywhere. So, I then ask my 'friend', thinking she had some common sense- did Carmela invite herself. She has the nerve to say to me- we'll you did mention the e-party to her in Sept.. OK, now ladies just because I'm talking about my e-party out loud doesn't mean I'm going to invite everyone in the room, right?

3)Then, my friend tells me that her and Carmela would like to know whether I'd want money or a gift. WHAT....I felt like this was so inappropriate! This was the same girl who asked me how much the SandCastle was charging pp for my e-party. I'm telling you I couldn't believe it. I was so pissed off. I wouldn't dare ask someone such a question. The reason my FI and I are having a e-party is because we want to celebrate such a special occasion and since there have been so many death's on my side especially, my aunt even said it's about time we have a celebrate a good thing. So I basically told my friend that, I don't care about gifts- all I want is for everyone to have a good time and enjoy themselves during this occasion.

I called my FI and told him and he was like HELL NO. I'm going to tell her that it's only family and a few friends. My FI told me that if she has a problem, tell her to call him or he'll call her himself. He's not crazy about my 'friend' either. I'm just going to call her tomorrow and set her straight. I don't understand how people can just be so insensitive and just feel that it's ok to invite whom ever they want. And let me tell you- the only reason this girl wants to come is to talk crap and eat free food. Please

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You should explain the reason You COULDNT invite Carmela was due to space or money. And why not register its fun. You don't have to go screming it around let it go through word of mouth! Dont stress. I hate to say it but there will be worse things come closer to the wedding!

OMG thast so rude. i know how you feel ive had a similar situation along the way. sometimes people just suck alot and have no manners good luck

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Posted by marymoon

Rina..you just told us ALL bout your wedding and e-party...i'll be expecting an invitation any day now! LOL

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Me too!!!

sorry about this chick - obviously, she has no class. Just say that the invite was for her family only and if Carmela was invited, she would have gotten one at her home also. People are so rude

I love you girls. You can always bring a smile on my face. I wasn't able to call her tonight, but I'm calling her tomorrow and telling her that 95% of the party is consisting of family. Everyone else is close friends, etc. I'm just going to explain to her that I don't want it looking like a wedding and that I want something more personal. I'm going to explain to her NICELY OF COURSE -that I don't want someone whom is a two-face bleep at my party. She can get offended all she wants- I just don't care! Ladies, the last time I saw this girl was in Sept.- hell at this rate maybe I should make this girl my MOH too. What do you think???

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Posted by june262004

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You should explain the reason You COULDNT invite Carmela was due to space or money. And why not register its fun. You don't have to go screming it around let it go through word of mouth! Dont stress. I hate to say it but there will be worse things come closer to the wedding!

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Oh joy- the wedding. Maybe eloping is a better idea!

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Posted by Rina

I love you girls. You can always bring a smile on my face. I wasn't able to call her tonight, but I'm calling her tomorrow and telling her that 95% of the party is consisting of family. Everyone else is close friends, etc. I'm just going to explain to her that I don't want it looking like a wedding and that I want something more personal. I'm going to explain to her NICELY OF COURSE -that I don't want someone whom is a two-face bleep at my party. She can get offended all she wants- I just don't care! Ladies, the last time I saw this girl was in Sept.- hell at this rate maybe I should make this girl my MOH too. What do you think???

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You gotta take this crap with a grain of salt. I'm glad you still have your sense of humor. I think telling her that 95% is mostly family and that she's not invited should do the trick. If she still doesn't get it then just say it straight out.

I have seen so many of these posts at this point that I am beginning to think we need 'Manners School'. How rude!

I had someone tell me this week when I said I was getting married in NY( I live in CA), 'I can't wait, I have never been to NY'! How do you answer that!

OMG.... I thought I was the only one with a friend like this!!! I truely understand what you went through, plus the conversations get uncomfortable with them. My friend first started in about the BP, who's in it, who are they to me, kinda like well why am I not in it. Then she started inviting all her kids and 'oh, my moms invited too, right?', we had just gotten engaged and the wedding wasn't till a year later. Then she calls me one morning and it's 'Oh I don't think I can get to your shower, it's to expensive with everything that's going on right now. But do you want a gift or money?'. I was like huh? Can't you be a bit creative and decide yourself? I told her you don't have to give us anything, the gift isn't that important.

Oh well, I guess we all have people like this in our lives to keep it interesting.

Some people are clueless! and so rude.

How could she you better get her striaght and nip this in the bud.

Hi everyone,
Here's an update. Last night I wasn't able to call her (Fran) and say anything because I was at a basketball game. However, my best-friend (Jess) called her yesterday and my friend said to her 'guess who wants to come to Caterina's e-party, Carmela and she's going to bring her boyfriend'. So my best-friend say's to her, how is Carmela's boyfriend going to come if CARMELA wasn't even invited. She say's to my best-friend , 'well Cat mentioned the e-party in Sept, so what am I going to say to her since she wants to come.' Then Fran tries to make it look to Jes like the invitation I sent to her house was addressed to everyone in general. Jessica had to then explain to her that it only said mr/mrs/family. NOT AND TWO-FACE ROOMATE.

HELLO- IT'S MYYYYYYY E-PARTY BEEP.
She wasn't invited.

Moving along, so my best-friend say's just tell her we don't talk to her, nor haven't spoken w/ her since God knows when and that the invitation wasn't addressed to her at all. Fran then say's, we'll anyways we still have time the party isn't until May. So, I called her when I get out of work and she picks up the phone. Guess who she is with? Carmela. Well, I told her that 98% of the people at my e-party are going to be family and the other's close friends. I told her I didn't want it to look like a wedding. She was like ...yeah it's ok...I understand. I went on to say that- I hope it doesn't offend you, but she is not invited to my e-party. So, then Fran ask's whether her boyfriend could come. Seriously....I'm not sure if this girl is brain dead- but I told her weeks ago, that if she'd like to bring her boyfriend, she is more than welcomed to do so. Well she got the clue. I don't care but if that girl shows up to my party- I will be throwing someone out the window.

PS-Thanks for your support

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Posted by m&m2005

OMG.... I thought I was the only one with a friend like this!!! I truely understand what you went through, plus the conversations get uncomfortable with them. My friend first started in about the BP, who's in it, who are they to me, kinda like well why am I not in it. Then she started inviting all her kids and 'oh, my moms invited too, right?', we had just gotten engaged and the wedding wasn't till a year later. Then she calls me one morning and it's 'Oh I don't think I can get to your shower, it's to expensive with everything that's going on right now. But do you want a gift or money?'. I was like huh? Can't you be a bit creative and decide yourself? I told her you don't have to give us anything, the gift isn't that important.

Oh well, I guess we all have people like this in our lives to keep it interesting.

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Lol...maybe it's the same girl. This girl asked me two weeks after I was engaged whether she was in the bridal party. She can really drive you nuts. I can't take her- she's so annoying and childish- it's ridiculous. By the way she is going to be 27 and a teacher...pretty scary.