I am soooooooooo angry right now!!!!!!!!!! OMG!!!! This early and im so ****ed....I need to vent big time!
I have vented about this friend before and right now I am livid! She is single and lives the single life. She has no responsibilites, no one to answer to, goes out all the time and drives me nuts! When she used to go out, she would never ask me to go anywhere..she had her own group of friends and I was left out which was fine cause I was more into planning my wedding and focusing on my future. Now all of a sudden, when I have more responsibilities than ever before, she asks me all the time to go out and get drunk. Now she is the type of person who goes out and drinks and goes home with a guy. I am not into that. If thats her life than fine, I dont judge, but it is not mine.
So anyway, she asks me to go out tonight. I cant go, I have other things to do. My husband has been working over time like mad and I havent even spent time with him. So i tell her that although I would like to get together, I cant. She tells me that she cant deal with me anymore, that im ridiculous, and that she doesnt have time for me. I tell her that my life has changed a little bit and I have other responsibilities now and she says WHATEVER, tell me she doesnt have time for my bs and signs off aim!!!!!!!!!!
OMG...I am so mad!!!!!!!!! She never asks me to go out for dinner or go shopping (unless she has no one else to go with and needs me) she just wants to go hang in bars. I understand shes not married, I understand shes in a different stage of life and I never say anything to her about anything. I just understand. She even had the balls to tell me that my mom should be over her grief of her fiance cause its been 3 months...ARE YOU KIDDING ME??
This is the same friend that laughed at some of my proofs and many of you told me that she is jealous. I think im cutting this friendship today. IM hesitating to call her cause I know that I will go off on her so bad! And like I posted to Dubliner yesterday, with my irish temper, sometimes I cant control it....
What should I say to her? Am i wrong? Isnt a friend just supposed to understand?? I dont technically agree with her lifestyle but I try never to hurt her. She thinks life is so easy for me, that the adjustment of marriage is just easy as anything..she says im too close with my family and that I need to leave my mom alone..I am sorry, I disagree...
Any feedback? Any opinions? I am so upset right now!
anna
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Noreen, why doyou have such a BIG HEART ????
It sounds like she's jealous of your lifestyle and how its progressing for you, and she seems to be 'stuck' in her teenage years, even way past her teenage years.
I would either write her an email or a letter and tell her exactly how you feel. How DARE she say that about your MOM !!!! and how DARE she say youre too close to your mom. Tell her EXACTLY as you feel, how she hurt you and if this is how she feels, then its best to end this friendship. Maybe you can mention doing other things OTHER Than bars. thats just not in your lifestyle right now, and you choose not to go. Afriendship should go both ways, and she doesnt seem to be very willing to hold up her end.
She seems extremely immature and sad about her life.
Dont get stressed. You did nothing wrong here !
butterfly20
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i use to have a 'friend' like that and i stopped hanging out with her early on cause thats the way it was.. she really is just a jealous insecure person, and you dont need that at a time when you are happy doing your wedding planning
does her name start with an A??
Marnles
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Noreen - I will AIM you later about this....
eroxgirl
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First of all, no one can hurt you if you don't give them that power over you. This person does not deserve your friendship -- who the he l l is she to say your mom should be over the loss of her fiance? Too close to your family? She's done with YOUR bs? No way! She should be mature enough to understand grown ups and grown up responsibilities (family, husbands etc). You don't need her friendship and she doesn't deserve it either. Friends support each other, they don't tear each other down.
Oh yeah, one more thing...God bless Irish tempers! I love mine!!
swags1016
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Noreen you should surround yourself with only positive people that add something great to your life!.
I am sorry that she hurt you. We can getting the egging crew together if you like!!!
nycchic_24
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Yeah I definately need the egging crew here NOW!
It seems like I am always trying my best not to hurt others and in the long run, I get hurt. Dont get me wrong, I can be the biggest B I T C H ever but when it comes to friends...i try my best.
As I said before, I cant and will not change the person I am for anyone. I have never been into clubs and that whole scene. A bar to hang out with everyone, yes of course, I love it but not for the reasons she wants to go. And even I were before, I am way past that now.
For example, she doesnt like to do family things with her family but I have never said anything to her about that....thats her...I accept it. I dont force my lifestyle down her throat..I feel a friend should accept you...and she does not.
Im sorry for keep bringing this up but I am so angry, hurt, annoyed!
