One of my bridesmaids is being really shady to me and the planning of my wedding....

curlysue Posted: May 04, 2003 08:08 PM

One of my bridesmaids is being really shady to me and the planning of my wedding....

I'm trying not to let it bug me. I feel I have to kiss her a** a little so she doesn't screw me in any way. This all boils down to jealousy of course. I have dealt with her for about 3 years with this jealousy crap she is not a true friend of mine but of course she is someone I had to include in the wedding party. At our engagement party she distanced herself and didn't eat a thing you would have never know she was in my bridal party. I could say a lot more but I have to make din din for my FI he worked all day today and I don't want to bother him with this crap. If you girls can give some adivce on how to deal or if you going through the same thing I would like to know what your thoughts are and how you are dealing with it. Thanks

soon2bmrs2004 Posted: May 04, 2003 08:13 PM

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why does she have to be in the the bridal party?

diamondgirly Posted: May 04, 2003 08:14 PM

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Hey Curlysue,
Sorry to hear about what you are going through.
How long have you been friends with this girl? I noticed a change in a few of close friends when I got engaged. Some of them were jealous of the fact I was getting married, some were just mad because they felt they 'losing a friend' Maybe you should talk to her and tell her that you have noticed a change in her behavior, and ask her to explain what she's feeling. Get to the bottom of her actions before you get ready to attack her...see if that works Good Luck Girl!

sophie78 Posted: May 04, 2003 08:17 PM

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Need more details!

pschica Posted: May 04, 2003 09:23 PM

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i am in the same boat too - wish i could tell you what works but haven't found it yet!

stacey7-13 Posted: May 04, 2003 09:34 PM

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I am also in the same situation. I totally understand what you mean. The only way that I deal with this is by expecting less of her. I know it sounds horrible that I feel this way about one of my bridesmaids but its the only way I can get through it.

I know it would be best to talk to her about her behavior, I am afraid she will say something nasty to me that I will never be able to forget or forgive her for and I just dont want to ler her ruin my happiness so I choose to ignore it and just expect nothing from her this way she can't dissapoint me (even though she does).

dee6580 Posted: May 04, 2003 09:53 PM

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I have a BM like that too.
I feel she is jealous but there is nothing anyone can do to change it.
And i expect less from her too.
She didn't come to my bridal shower, she waited till forever to get her 1st measurement for the dress, and i doubt she'll be at the rehersal. I'm afraid she won't come to the wedding too or she'll be late.

I've know her for about 2yrs and she acts if i don't exist anymore.