one of our non gift givers.... **UPDATED at the bottom**

told my MIL yesterday that she will be sending DH and I a check since we never cashed her gift she gave at the wedding.

what a bunch of BS! she didn't even come up to us to congratulate us at our wedding! not 1 WORD from her to either of us. And... she was invited with a guest, and didn't even have the courtesy to introduce us to this stranger who we paid for. oh, and did I mention, this isn't a random person, it's DH's 1st cousin!

I hate liars

Hey, maybe she's trying to redeem herself by sending a check. Tacky - but hey, who are you to refuse her money?

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Posted by WedHead

Hey, maybe she's trying to redeem herself by sending a check. Tacky - but hey, who are you to refuse her money?

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yea I know... she's probably all embarrassed (knowing her though, probably not!)

my take on it is, why lie? it's not like she HAS to give us a gift. I am more PO'd that she didn't say a word to DH or I or introduce us to her boyfriend. I thought that was so rude. and this is a 37 yr old woman with 2 teenagers.

Oh Geez!!!

We got a card at the wedding from a friend of my father's (who by the way is a cardiac doctor!!!) in the card he said he forgot his checkbook and would mail our gift to my father.

I didn't realize that they still used the pony express for mail on Long Island!

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Posted by FallBride05


I didn't realize that they still used the pony express for mail on Long Island!

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Dina, I wonder if this really will mail a check or if she just said it to cover herself in front of your MIL. But why on Earth would she discuss your wedding presents with your MIL? She probably thinks that she knows she stiffed...or she's a loser and feels guilty...

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Posted by SomethingBlu

Dina, I wonder if this really will mail a check or if she just said it to cover herself in front of your MIL. But why on Earth would she discuss your wedding presents with your MIL? She probably thinks that she knows she stiffed...or she's a loser and feels guilty...

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most of DH's family lives in the same town in OH. so they see each other pretty often. who knows why she brought it up though! it's not like my MIL would EVER come out and ask her. as much as she wishes she could... b/c she's not the only one of his cousins to stiff us.

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Posted by Blu-ize

Why do people lie? How rude. What prompted this? It sounds like your MIL said something.

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not a chance. my MIL would never do that. My MIL did however check with her sisters (the aunts) who know which cousins didn't give us a gift. they claim to have not said anything.

I don’t really care though to be honest. like I said, I am more PO'd at the fact that she comes to our wedding with her b-friend that we don't know, eats and drinks their faces off and never even say congratulations to us! RUDE!

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Posted by dleeny

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Posted by Blu-ize

Why do people lie? How rude. What prompted this? It sounds like your MIL said something.

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not a chance. my MIL would never do that. My MIL did however check with her sisters (the aunts) who know which cousins didn't give us a gift. they claim to have not said anything.

I don’t really care though to be honest. like I said, I am more PO'd at the fact that she comes to our wedding with her b-friend that we don't know, eats and drinks their faces off and never even say congratulations to us! RUDE!

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Somebody said something. There is no other way, it would come up. They should have at least wished you well. You know, you can't buy manners.

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Posted by Blu-ize

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Posted by dleeny

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Posted by Blu-ize

Why do people lie? How rude. What prompted this? It sounds like your MIL said something.

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not a chance. my MIL would never do that. My MIL did however check with her sisters (the aunts) who know which cousins didn't give us a gift. they claim to have not said anything.

I don’t really care though to be honest. like I said, I am more PO'd at the fact that she comes to our wedding with her b-friend that we don't know, eats and drinks their faces off and never even say congratulations to us! RUDE!

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Somebody said something. There is no other way, it would come up. They should have at least wished you well. You know, you can't buy manners.

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if someone said something I hope she feels like crap

the funny thing is, his cousins think they're so high and mighty. they're all just plain snobs. clearly they don't walk the walk though!

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Posted by dleeny

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Posted by Blu-ize

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Posted by dleeny

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Posted by Blu-ize

Why do people lie? How rude. What prompted this? It sounds like your MIL said something.

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not a chance. my MIL would never do that. My MIL did however check with her sisters (the aunts) who know which cousins didn't give us a gift. they claim to have not said anything.

I don’t really care though to be honest. like I said, I am more PO'd at the fact that she comes to our wedding with her b-friend that we don't know, eats and drinks their faces off and never even say congratulations to us! RUDE!

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Somebody said something. There is no other way, it would come up. They should have at least wished you well. You know, you can't buy manners.

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if someone said something I hope she feels like crap

the funny thing is, his cousins think they're so high and mighty. they're all just plain snobs. clearly they don't walk the walk though!

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I think it's such bullcrap that adults don't know how to behave. It's their parents' fault.

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Posted by Blu-ize

I think it's such bullcrap that adults don't know how to behave. It's their parents' fault.

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Want to hear something funny?

DH has 3 aunts. The kids of 2 out of the 3 aunts didn’t give us gifts.

A few weeks ago, 2 of the aunts were all at my MIL’s house for dinner and 1 of them was complaining how cousin X and her kids never thank her for Christmas gifts. So the other Aunt snaps and said well that same cousin X didn’t even give Dina and Bill a wedding gift! The other aunt was “horrified”…. According to my MIL.

Meanwhile, neither of her 2 daughters gave us anything either!

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Posted by dleeny

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Posted by Blu-ize

I think it's such bullcrap that adults don't know how to behave. It's their parents' fault.

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Want to hear something funny?

DH has 3 aunts. The kids of 2 out of the 3 aunts didn’t give us gifts.

A few weeks ago, 2 of the aunts were all at my MIL’s house for dinner and 1 of them was complaining how cousin X and her kids never thank her for Christmas gifts. So the other Aunt snaps and said well that same cousin X didn’t even give Dina and Bill a wedding gift! The other aunt was “horrified”…. According to my MIL.

Meanwhile, neither of her 2 daughters gave us anything either!

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There's the answer to your question....

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Posted by Blu-ize

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Posted by dleeny

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Posted by Blu-ize

I think it's such bullcrap that adults don't know how to behave. It's their parents' fault.

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Want to hear something funny?

DH has 3 aunts. The kids of 2 out of the 3 aunts didn’t give us gifts.

A few weeks ago, 2 of the aunts were all at my MIL’s house for dinner and 1 of them was complaining how cousin X and her kids never thank her for Christmas gifts. So the other Aunt snaps and said well that same cousin X didn’t even give Dina and Bill a wedding gift! The other aunt was “horrified”…. According to my MIL.

Meanwhile, neither of her 2 daughters gave us anything either!

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There's the answer to your question....

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'eh... whatever. like I said, I hope she was embarrassed.

I love how the 'horrified' aunt's kids didn't give us anything either. I wonder if she even knows.

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Posted by Blu-ize

Do people think that if their parents go and give a gift, their gift will be included with their parents, like they were when they were kids?

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I think so.... we had a few of those.

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Posted by Blu-ize

Do people think that if their parents go and give a gift, their gift will be included with their parents, like they were when they were kids?

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I wouldn't doubt it