only sending my save the dates and i already have a dilema

iceprincess Posted: Feb 11, 2010 12:40 AM

only sending my save the dates and i already have a dilema

Okay ladies i am not really new to this site i have been on and off getting some good advice and tips from all of your posts.
I have a dielma I have a cousin who i dont like her sister is in my wedding party .
I have a childhood best friend whom i lost touch with when she moved to fl ( whom i lent over 2 grand to and who still hasnt pd me back yet) alsways a story.
well we were all close growing up our families were all close ...turns out they became really good friends long story short i am inviting my x best friend mother and two brothers ..she moved back home in with them and hangs out with my cousin EVERY day tells people she misses me and stuff. Yet my cousin talks mad crap about me and what not my fiance says to only inivte one of them why invite someone who talks crap about me and or someone who owes me money only to pay more money on her for her plate...i am so torn i dont know what to do. He told me i am crazy to invite both so they can both hang out and talk crap ti each other all night? Please giveme some advice what would you ladies do.
there is obvioulsy more to the story but we are all busy planning for weddings im not trying to make you all my therapist lol.

rdubs Posted: Feb 11, 2010 01:02 AM

Re: only sending my save the dates and i already have a dilema

See this is the problem with STDs....so much can change in the next 8 months! Maybe I'm not the best to respond since we decided against STDs for this reason

I say that you may need to do the 'right' thing and invite your cousin you don't like. Hopefully this will save you less heartache and stress in the end.

An idea to avoid any conflicts beforehand or the day of is talk to the sister in you BP and tell her to speak to her sister. You don't want any heartache on your day.

Thats-What-She-Said Posted: Feb 11, 2010 01:19 AM

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S^&$ them both!!!
your ex-bff hasn't maid any effort to make amends. She has only told other people that she is thinking about it.
Your cousin is probably going to talk ish about you wether she is invited or not. So you have to decide do you want her to talk crap because she wasn't invited, or talk crap about every detail of your wedding.

iceprincess Posted: Feb 11, 2010 02:50 PM

Re: only sending my save the dates and i already have a dilema

thank you guys...i guess i really have to think about it ....the friend i just felt akward not inviting her cause her whole family who she moved back in with is invited with guests...so i think i really might just sit down one at a time with both of them the friend and the cousin and just put my cards out on the table ..its just so akward...i mean really with all the things i am going to have to worry about this is what i have to start with ...so high school ..is it to early to plan a destination wedding lol then neither can come cause they wouldnt be able to afford it ( of course neither could i ) lol

AdriandSteve Posted: Feb 11, 2010 02:52 PM

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I wouldn't send std's to either. A lot can change from now until then. I'd worry about making your final decision when it's time to send invites out.

StaceYums81 Posted: Feb 11, 2010 02:56 PM

Re: only sending my save the dates and i already have a dilema

don't send them the save the dates
you can always invite people later on if u didn't send a save the date but its hard to take back a save the date once you've sent it catch my drift? lol

Antigua8910 Posted: Feb 11, 2010 03:06 PM

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I wouldn't send STD's, but if you already order them, send it to both of them. If they both end up coming to the wedding, sit them on opposite sides of the room.....there is alot of time between then and now, hope for the best. In the meantime-its your day, who do you want there?

FutureMrsG Posted: Feb 11, 2010 03:27 PM

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Only send save the dates to the people you KNOW you want at your wedding no matter what...relationships can change...you can always send an invite later.