I am currently planning my wedding but before I got engaged I agreed to be in one of my friends wedding as a brides maid (not that my getting engaged would have effected my decision). She is having a huge bachelorette party in MD for 4 days and 3 nights. I am paying for most of my wedding myself and I have 2 kids. Going away for the bachelorette party just is not looking possible. I literally can not afford it and getting a babysitter for my kids would be difficult since my finace works till almost midnight. Am I a horrible BM if I don't go???
MayBride2010
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Not at all....3 of my BMs (including my MOH) didn't come to my BP. Just explain the situation to her, I am sure she will understand
allornil
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not at all. that's a lot to ask someone to do imo. I'd just call her and express how much you;d love to go but bc of your kids you cant. she'll understand.
AngnShaun
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No... thats one of the fall backs of having a going away bparty... you have to accept the fact that not everyone can make it...
i couldnt go to one of my friends bparties and i was in the bp and she had a smaller local bparty where all the bms were able to make it
Tetelove
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You are not a horrible Bm at all. If you can't afford it, you can't afford it. Don't feel bad about it. Hopefully she is a GOOD friend to undertstand the situation and won't hold it against you. Maybe try to do something local with just you and her to make up for not being able to attend her bac. party in MD.
Don't feel bad about it..
JessNicole7EM
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Just explain it to her.. but maybe pay for something for her while they are there..
like if they're staying at a hotel.. pay for a massage for her one morning or something.
Or buy her a gift for her to use there.. maybe a dress or something?
Jroc22
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Your def not, Maybe do a night out just you & her to dinner somewhere. She has to understand. Your going through the same thing.
wenR
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Dont' go. She should understand.
Jna2010
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i dont think so, its understandable esp since you have kids, can you maybe swing it to go for 1 night? or maybe plan another bparty for you and some of the other girls that couldnt go either?
sandybeaches115
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Not at all. Just explain the situation to her. she may be disappointed but in the end she'll understand. of my 9 bms only 2 can make it to my shower (most are OOT/country)
Moonmist09
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not at all. let he rknow the situation. if a lot of people can't make it for one reason or another, she may decide to change her mind and do something more local and affordable for everyone
JAAMS
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I think you have a totally acceptable reason why you cannot go!
