opinions needed

Hi girls i need your opinion on this. Its not really a big deal or to serious but heres the thing. I know about my bridal shower, it wasnt a surprise, I helped pick the place ...anyway i wanted to get my mom and my FH mom a pin or something that says Mother of the Bride and Mother of the Groom so that everyone knows who they are, the thing is my FH also has a Stepmom. Hes close to her because they have been married a long time but he doesnt call her mom or anything but they (his dad and stepmom) are very generous to us and invloved. Now heres the question. Do I get her a pin that says Stepmother of the Groom so she doesnt feel excluded, or just get it for the 2 moms because I dont want them to get offended either since they are the real moms. My mom wont care but his might. What would you girls do?? Just curious?

Hmmm..... I would maybe do pins for the girls in your bridal party too so that the emphasis isn't so heavily placed on just the mom's. Maybe this would eliminate FH's mom feeling like well why did SHE get a pin. If you are all wearing pins to say who is who, then you are highlighting all the important ladies of the day and not just moms. So maybe she won't even realize.

Or you could do pins on chairs like this one - I saved this pic because I thought it was so cute... And maybe FH's mom won't even know there is a pin on the stepmom's chair.