OVERWHELMED- NEED ADVICE BADLY!!! (LINK TO BHB)

BriBri529 Posted: Jan 23, 2005 02:13 PM

OVERWHELMED- NEED ADVICE BADLY!!! (LINK TO BHB)

http://www.liweddings.com/chat/topic.aspx?ID=194188&Reload=19329

LovelyL Posted: Jan 23, 2005 02:18 PM

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I think you should tell her that it is too much for you at the time (which is the truth). Now on the other hand, I would be hurt if I was being your BM and you wouldn't agree to be mine. BUT.....she did jerk it around a lot with the date and location, so I feel you have the right to say no.

This is a tough one! Keep us posted.

BriBri529 Posted: Jan 23, 2005 02:22 PM

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I have to also add something . . . I feel like we probably would not be friends anymore if we weren't in eachother's weddings . . . I feel like it is the only thing holding our friendship together . . . . Does this make sense?

LovelyL Posted: Jan 23, 2005 02:25 PM

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Posted by BriBri529

I have to also add something . . . I feel like we probably would not be friends anymore if we weren't in eachother's weddings . . . I feel like it is the only thing holding our friendship together . . . . Does this make sense?

If the weddings (being in each others),are the only thing holding the friendship together, isn't there a good chance it will fall apart after the weddings anyway?

BriBri529 Posted: Jan 23, 2005 02:30 PM

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that's how I feel

azoodie Posted: Jan 23, 2005 02:34 PM

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bri this really sucks....i don't know what to tell you!!

is it too late to back out for financial reasons? It just seems like a lot to deal with....

AND BY THE WAY! Ray and I will be getting a puppy right after the wedding, so if it's any consolation, we'll puppysit free of charge!!! They can be friends!

Lots of for you!

BriBri529 Posted: Jan 23, 2005 02:39 PM

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Thanks Azad . . . I know this really does suck- BTW what kind of puppy do you plan on getting?

azoodie Posted: Jan 23, 2005 02:40 PM

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it changes every now and then, but right now i'm set on a cockapoo!!!

GoingNutty Posted: Jan 23, 2005 03:21 PM

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I know exactly how you feel Bri. A friend of mine is getting married two months before us and asked me to be in her bridal party (she is in mine). I am really worried about having money to pay for all of the stuff involved with being in the bridal party especially considering I have to lay out thousands of dollars about a month later for my own wedding. It is going to be a huge financial strain but I didn't feel like I could say no... I really don't know what to say other than that I know how you feel!

BriBri529 Posted: Jan 23, 2005 05:03 PM

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Thanks girls . . . this is really tough- and on top of it, FH is turning 30 in Oct. and was hoping to throw him a party . . .

I am just overwhelmed with the additional expenses . . .

hbradio Posted: Jan 23, 2005 06:22 PM

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I think you should be a BM in her wedding but you should feel no obligation to go to her shower, bachlorette, etc. I have 3 OOT BMs, all from Rochester and before I asked them to be in it I thought long and hard, and wrote them all very long letters stating that I would completely understand if they didnt want to be in it and if they do decide to be in it, I would never expect them to come to the other festivities. I know you said she wants you to be there but guess what we all want things that we dont get! Its all about compromise.