Parent's Friends

treilly13 Posted: Dec 30, 2003 03:08 PM

Parent's Friends

Should we feel obligated to invite our parent's friends? My mom offered to pay for hers, which is fine but my future SIL is telling me that I HAVE to invite my future MIL's friend. I know that I don't HAVE to, but should I?
I just don't know.

nylisa Posted: Dec 30, 2003 03:09 PM

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My parents and FILs are invitating their friends to the wedding. I know all my parents friends and most of my FILs friends that are being invited.

treilly13 Posted: Dec 30, 2003 03:10 PM

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I know some of my mom's friends but not my MIL's. My FH doesn't even know them.

butterfly20 Posted: Dec 30, 2003 03:11 PM

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we are inviting the parents friends that we know... if my fh or i doesnt know them/hasnt met them, then theyre not invited...
your fh would probably know who to invite

eroxgirl Posted: Dec 30, 2003 03:21 PM

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We are inviting a few of FMILs friends. I just didn't see how I could tell her no if my parents are inviting friends. I would have put a limit on it (or demanded $$) if there were a lot, but I think she only invited maybe 4 friends so its not a big deal.

Maribelle7777 Posted: Dec 30, 2003 03:46 PM

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I would like to invite a few of my dad's friends, just because they've been nice to me over the years. Hell, I'd rather invite them than my cousin and his wife that live around the corner from my father and never call or come over to see how he is and see if he needs anything.

I don't think FH invited any of his father's friends...most of them are FH's friends too but I also know that most won't come since they are overseas.

MrsTC Posted: Dec 30, 2003 03:51 PM

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I invited my parent's close friends....and my parents did give me $$ towards part of the reception and so did my MIL for her friends...but DH and I told them a limit - we wanted our friends to be there too!

LADYLUV69 Posted: Dec 30, 2003 04:43 PM

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only a selected few.

treilly13 Posted: Dec 30, 2003 04:45 PM

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We'll probably end up inviting the closest friends. I guess I just really don't like being told that I absolutely HAVE to do things.

Thanks for your feedback!

2003OCT10 Posted: Dec 30, 2003 04:57 PM

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As bad as this is going to sound... if your mother offers to pay for her friends... GET THE MONEY up front... My mother did the same thing... And I NEVER GOT the cash for her annoying-- and VERY cheap friends!! Just a heads up! Good Luck!

wenndypoo Posted: Dec 30, 2003 04:59 PM

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We are inviting parents' friends.
Of course you don't 'have' to! Close friends sounds more thatn reasonable to me.

Robeymuse Posted: Dec 30, 2003 05:25 PM

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We are inviting our parents friends. And I haven't met all of them. But it makes them happy and they feel like a part of the celebration so I haven't said anything.

Jackiwedd Posted: Dec 30, 2003 05:26 PM

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My mother is inviting her friends and my future mother in law is inviting her's as well. At first i felt a little uncomfortable with the idea but they said they would pay for them and its only 6 or 7 total.

kdelace Posted: Dec 30, 2003 05:29 PM

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i told my dad he could invite whatever close friends he wanted- we dont have a big family anymore- many passed away.. his friends are like family-0 he is a retired detective so many of his detective friends are coming. As for my fi parents, we told them the same thing. it didn't come out to much...

Kelly9904 Posted: Dec 30, 2003 05:38 PM

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We are inviting friends of our parents. In my case some of my parents friends are closer to me than family!

But you dont have to! I would give them a # of guests and if they go over that then you will need $$$ from them! Then they can fill up their spots however they choose, family/friends etc!

palebride Posted: Dec 30, 2003 05:42 PM

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we're inviting pretty much everyone!
It the first wedding for both of our families....and so we told out parents to give us a list of the people they wanted to invite....and created a list from that. There were more people than we had originally hoped.....but I know not everyone will be able to make it, so I think we'll be ok!
I cuoldnt' bera to tell anyone that they couldnt' invite certain people!! It's a celebration!!

tourist Posted: Dec 30, 2003 05:56 PM

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I have a 'no people we don't know ' rule.
Its not a monry thing, more of a privacy thing.

dates/spouses are ok, but i think we know everyone's spouse & I hope not too many people bring random dates.

I made 1 exception, b/c he has 2 frineds that he has knownfor 20 years & they are a packagae deal, & i really shoudl have met the 2nd oen by now. And my dad only has 5 people on his side of the family ( incl. 3 children)and they live in Atlanta & may not come, so I felt it was not a big deal.

FMIL has a few friends, but FH knows them & I met most of them at his graduation party.