Paying for Bridal shower?

Do you know who is paying for your bridal shower and have you ever had to pay for one??

This is my 'delemia' I have been in 7 wedding parties and have shared the cost of the bridal shower in 4 of those weddings (the others I was to young for).
I am in my best friends wedding this coming december and planned on contributing again. However the bride told her mom that she (brides mom) is to pay for the shower and not to ask us BP members to help, that it is rude....
My mom I know will be helping with the bridal shower expenses but I know she can't foot the entire bill. I dont want my mom or family to come off as cheap, or rude!
What's your opinion?

I'm my sister's MOH and I'm basically paying for it all myself. My mom helped out with the favors.

My sister is my MOH and is basically paying for mine on her own too with a little help from my mom.

I never contributed to the bridal showers for bridal parties that I was in, but then again I was never asked to . ..

yeah i dont really know the answer to this question.

but im thinking maybe your friend said that to her mom because she feels bad to have her BM pay. She might be thinking of you (who is getting married soon and knows you will be short on $) and her other friends.

but im glad you asked this, because I would like to know the norm!

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Posted by jgl

yeah i dont really know the answer to this question.

but im thinking maybe your friend said that to her mom because she feels bad to have her BM pay. She might be thinking of you (who is getting married soon and knows you will be short on $) and her other friends.

but im glad you asked this, because I would like to know the norm!

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I guess that it could be that she is trying to help me save up!

I really think that when you are asked to be a BM, alot of girls think that they buy a dress and shoes, get a bok and are in your pictures....honestly... ive seen this...

I have a friend getting married in october, N. I am in Nicoles wedding and so is T. N lives out of state. only the wedding is out of state, nothing else. In speaking with her mom, when planning all the events thru her wedding, T just was uninterested and had no idea it was such a respondsibility! I was like hmmm...shes in my BP too!

I think BMs should offer to help...not necessarily giving my mom money, but offering to pick up some decorations or bring a dessert (if necessary) or help with postage for invites, or make the wishing well, help set up, etc..... i mean...it shows how much i mean to you!

T wont be at N's bridal shower. I feel like talkin to her about mine, bc id be really hurt.....

We pickedbms for a reason...our right hand ladies...the girls who were always there for us, and they should help out in some way...even if its getting there 2 hours early to putup chairs and hang a banner, or offering to buy balloons....etc.