i don't want to have tolike to the church, but i don't wanna get in trouble for breaking the rules.
should i be stressing?
PazzaRagazza
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they dont really discuss premartial sex they talk about family planning..... dont stress it!!!
lisam1113
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They didn't bring it up. When we had 'the investigation' we were soo scared but they just took us in a room at seperate times to ask us questions about each other, our future, if we want a family etc... When we told the priest that we live together & have a baby already he knew about the premarital sex obviously but then asked questions along the lines of making sure were not getting married bc we have a baby.. Its not bad we actually enjoyed precana
FutureJOC
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Posted by PazzaRagazza
they dont really discuss premartial sex they talk about family planning..... dont stress it!!!
yes this is what was discussed in our precana. Also, we never actually had open discussion in our precana. It was more like the priest/speaker talked and we listened and you could ask question if you want. Then we did some exercises.
2010BTB
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Posted by PazzaRagazza
they dont really discuss premartial sex they talk about family planning..... dont stress it!!!
This - we didn't have PreCana but we did have 'counselings' with our pastor. The sex questions were in a survey and it was basically just asking are you happy with your sex life, have you discussed how many kids you want if any, etc. Nothing graphic and personal.
halfbaked
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No, they'll never just sit you down and ask you ANYTHING straight out like that. And if you don't feel comfortable answering, you don't have to answer. It's more of a lecture with one on one exercises after.
ETA: I don't know about anyone else's church, but at my pre-cana, they were WELL aware that we were all having pre-marital sex. They didn't care. They did talk about stopping for awhile before the wedding to make the wedding night special. Yeah, we didn't do that.
Yankeeelove
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They didn't talk about that with us, but they did make us watch a video on family planning. I wouldn't worry
SoonToBeEMM
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This is all good to know, I was worried about this also.
KrisBren2011
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We just had to listen to the older couples talk about their sex lives
jilliebean84
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The only thing in that category that came up was when we went to take the FOCCUS test - they told us to please not lie if we are living together, b/c that's fine and they have extra questions to answer for the couples already living together to help them understand us better.
