Please be Honest .. tell me ladies how angry would you be if..

Please be Honest .. tell me ladies how angry would you be if..

the moh that was recently demotedt o a bm(remember?) due to selfish self cenetred behavior.. calls last night w/ more drama.. started a new dead beat weekend job .. and oh she CANT get off the of the rehearsal... is it time for me to give her her permanent walking papers??

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thanks Cindy for the great advice.. she has already missed their first fitting which was what her demoted ... so i guess i'll just play by ear

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I have a BM like this as well. If she gives me any more stress and aggravation I am going to ask her if she really wants to be in the wedding party and if not, that I wouldn't be mad if she stepped down. In reality, I am really starting to question my friendship with this girl due to all of this and I extremely upset with her

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I have a somewhat similar situation (one of my BMs/MOH just left to have bariatric surgery a month before the wedding and she asked if I still wanted her in the wedding since she would be coming back just in time for the RD if everything goes ok. And she'd have to order a new dress.) I would nicely ask her if she still wants to be part of your wedding party and that you wouldn't be offended if she stepped down. People aren't kidding when they say that weddings bring out the best and worst in people. I never would have imagined this would be happening to me, especially b/c I specifically chose a small BP to avoid drama. (Ha! I should have known better.) But anyways, she sounds like she may be more trouble than she's worth but if you think she's really going to pull through in the end for you then keep her. Otherwise, to the door with her! Remember Murphy's law. You don't need any more uncertainty than you can possibly control for.

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hey you do what you want..its stressful enough with everything else you have to deal with..if she has half a brain..she will understnad that it is just too much for you to deal with

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Wait - she has three months to request a day off and they will not be able to give her off. That sounds very shady. I am not sure how close to her you are, but I would be infuriated.

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i'd be burnt!!!

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I'd be a little disappointed, but to be honest, I dont think i'd be that upset. Its just the rehearsal and if she has to work, she has to work.

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she could have very easily told them she needed those 2 days off at the offering of the job .. truly i think she is full of s****

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that suxxxxxxxxxx omg she should bow out gracefully

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i have been hoping she would Elise .. so i wouldnt have the honor of putting her out .. and she just wont do it

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I would be mad too, but if she can't get the day off for the rehearsal because of work you shouldn't hold it against her. Granted she has slipped up along the way which would make anyone nervous about having a BM like that in your wedding, but as long as she is going to make it on the day of the wedding that's your first concern. You've already demoted her to a BM. Depending on your relationship, if you totally kicked her out of the wedding, it may or may not kill your friendship. That is something to think about...