Any advise on a bridesmaid who is mad that she is not the moh? She is not being very nice to the girl I asked to be my moh!! I don't want to have to worry about this 2 months before the wedding. She won't admit to me that she is upset, but she won't help with any of the planning(shower and stagette) saying to my moh that it is her job even though my bridesmaid has known me longer!! HELP PLEASE!!
yswedding
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If I knew you longer than her, and I wasn't your bridesmaid I might be a little upset, unless our relationship wasn't close or broken up at some point.
You can have 2 maid of honors. Why not?
MrsDrinkh20
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Posted by yswedding
If I knew you longer than her, and I wasn't your bridesmaid I might be a little upset, unless our relationship wasn't close or broken up at some point.
You can have 2 maid of honors. Why not?
I disagree..you obviously chose your moh for a reason and you did not choose this other bm...she needs to get over it and realize that its an honor to be a bm too! Have you talkedt o her about it and asked her what the deal is?
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Posted by yswedding
If I knew you longer than her, and I wasn't your bridesmaid I might be a little upset, unless our relationship wasn't close or broken up at some point.
You can have 2 maid of honors. Why not?
I disagree!!! It's quality not quantity. I wouldn't give in and bump her up.
I did consider making 2 MOHs, my MOH is my sis but one BM has gone above and beyond (more than anyone else and far exceeding any expectations) to be there for me and help me. I'm still on the fence about 'promoting' her because right now best men/MOH are our siblings, and GM/BMs are our friends and I wouldn't want to stir up any drama. It still crosses my mind every now and then, but I think it's better to bump someone up because she has been amazing and wonderfully helpful, not because she's pissy and is hurting you for spite.
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I was friends a little bit longer with my bm then my moh and my decision between all the girls WAS a hard one, I talked it over with my soon to be husband and decided from there. My bm is a dear friend but has hurt me in the past and seems to only have time for me when it works for her. I don't have the heart to tell her that because I don't want to hurt her. No I am scared that they are all going to think how they are placed in the wedding party is on how I rank their friendship, which isn't the case.
