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Please help me with this wedding invitation etiquette question!

Original post by Anniegrl

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My mother keeps bugging me about putting my FH's father and stepmother's names (along with my parents) in the wording of the invitation. I'm trying to find the proper etiquette on this, but haven't so far.

I say they shouldn't be mentioned because:
#1 they are in no way paying for any part of the wedding other than the rehearsal dinner

#2 FH's mom is deceased and he does NOT want his stepmother to in any way take his mother's place.

So, I'm not going to just put his dad's name on the invitation, or should I?

My mother is just being a pain about this because my sister's in-laws were very insulted that they weren't included in the wording of her wedding invitation (but they're very pushy and annoying like that).

Anniegrl Thread views: 1,477

Re: Please help me with this wedding invitation etiquette question!

Thanks everyone! I just e-mailed FH's dad to see what he thinks - I doubt he'll want his deceased wife's name on the invite since it might make his new wife feel a little left out, but I did tell him that I can put both their names on the program (ex. Father and Stepmother of the Groom.....Mr. and Mrs. XXXX) and also mention FH's mom because we're going a memorial candle for her. That should be good enough.

jlfp Thread views: 1,477

Re: Please help me with this wedding invitation etiquette question!

I also am having a hard time with the invite wording,nit sure who/ or who not to put on there.
i think I have decided on

Together with our families

B
&
G

celebrate.....

It includes everone that is 'family' to you!

I am using something like this as well.

Nora101004 Thread views: 1,477

Re: Please help me with this wedding invitation etiquette question!

Its your wedding, if your FIL's aren't paying they shouldn't be on the invite. If you and your FH want them on it, just do 'together with our parents, Jane and John...'

You have to do what makes your happy.

Kelly9904 Thread views: 1,477

Re: Please help me with this wedding invitation etiquette question!

This site has alot of idea...

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Smolokoff Thread views: 1,477

Re: Please help me with this wedding invitation etiquette question!

I wouldn't put the names, but if you feel you need to try something like

John Doe, son of Tom Doe and the late Jane Doe. --Then you kind of don't have to include stepmother.

Another alternative:
Tom and Ann Doe, invite you to the wedding of John Doe, son of Tom and the late Jane Doe.

And of course you would include your parents in there as well. I'm just kind of shortening it here.

Good luck.

Heidi